Have you ever declined a date with someone because of their name?
I judge men on their names and don't mean to. But if someone has a name as an ex I have a hard time separating them.
Funny story; I dated three women named Heather over the years after my divorce in 05'. My oldest daughter and four sisters, lovingly coined them "H1, H2, and H3" as to expell any confusion as to which one we were talking about if they were brought up in conversation. I remember my mother even labeling them as such on the back of printed photos she kept... lol
Eesh....no I haven't. Mostly because I've never been a dater. I've always been a serial monogamist. Until now. And, even now, I'm still not actually a dater. Anyway, moving on....
I would never reject somebody based on their name alone. Unless it was Bow to the King -- but not because of his name. I would reject him because I would think he was stupid for not changing the biggest mistake his parents ever made.
Shakespeare Romeo and Juliet, Act II scene ii: What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. Sounds right, but this is actually the crux of the matter. They end up dying because of their names.
This literature and not life, but a name means a lot. I too will find it difficult to date people with certain names. No particular names mentioned to protect the guilty.
No, in fact, I married a woman called Mel who had a daughter called Abbey and a few years later someone had found me through my art called Mel with a daughter called Abbey and I asked if this was a joke and it wasn't. I had relationships with both with quite a gap but back to back. it turned out to be a complete coincidence. true story and the 2 pairs were about the same age as each other. the second one also had a daughter called Jessica I later obviously found out.
For the longest time I refused to date anyone with the name of Mike/Michael. I had a boyfriend with that name in high school that was as my dad said "had Manson eyes". A year after we broke up (he tried to get into my car to assault me) he called me. He told me in explicit detail how he beat up his girlfriend, got arrested and put on 8 months probation. Then he asked me out. I politely declined.
No but I had a visceral reaction when I first heard the name again. Worse if they have the name of one of my sisters. Yuck!
However, the name might have played a subconscious role in it never going past a few dates with anyone who had a name match...