I also married a Catholic but he knew I was an atheist. I never objected to him having them baptized or taking them to church. I also let them go to different churches with friends. I explained my feelings when I thought it was appropriate. Proud to say they've grown into fellow atheists.
Do the best you can, and when you know better, do better (maya angelou, I believe).
Religious indoctrination is a dangerous thing. Present both sides of the coin, and allow your children to choose.
In my own experience, when anyone is presented with a choice, they rarely choose religion, especially Christianity.
The church makes you forfeit your children when you marry in the church so your spouse figured you were all in. Things change tho nothing stays the same. You should be able to approach her with your issue having gone thru 10 yrs of doing something you don't believe in. Perhaps you can both intro the children to as many religions as you know of which is what I did or when you are alone with the children let them know your beliefs and to hell with what your wife thinks, after all they are YOUR children too. Speak up and rationalize the kids, use science to help.
I would say whether you are justified depends not so much on what you do but how you do it. Unfortunately, shortsighted humans sometimes make agreements they can't or shouldn't keep. Part of life is learning to handle times when you aren't able to do what you agreed to do. If you respect your spouse, you will approach the problem in ways that show respect to both of you. You won't disregard your new feelings about the matter but you won't railroad over your spouse either. That effort will make the biggest difference between whether you are justified or not.
Why not raise them to be critical thinkers and they’ll figure it out for themselves. Teach them about evolution and educate them. I struggled with a Christian husband as well but I didn’t think it was fair for me to shove my disbeliefs down their throats either. Both my children are adults now and completely agree that god is a myth. This frustrates their father to no end and he blames me for corrupting them.
I'd be inclined to suggest you be allowed to express to them why you don't subscribe to Catholicism. After all, theists believe that their faith in Christ cannot be usurped by the arguments of unbelievers, so what has she to worry about? You can validly argue that they should have the ability to hear your views.
In in the same boat, mate, and I'm struggling with life because of it. My wife also just introduced some woo into their diet, and I don't know how to really address it. She knows I don't agree, but "if it's harmless, then no harm trying".
All my three kids are believers, two of them seriously. I was hoping she and maturity would ease it in combination with dad's clearly stated disbelief, but it just isn't enough. I've failed to make them skeptical, and it really keeps me up at night.
Marital agreements do not require complete silence ....kids have their delusional mom and their timid fraidy cat Atheist dad. ....teach your kids tolerance love respect for their mom AND TELL THEM THE TRUTH THERE IS NO bible alleged gawd to stop priests from raping a boy or girl during catechism classes. ...this is the precise reality of it all kids should NOT BE LIED TO by Atheist parents. ...the evil believers are 100% liars regarding faiths
Have a discussion with your wife and tell her how you feel. But honestly, exposing your kids to different religions (& lack of religion) builds them up to be tolerant adults. Just tell them about your beliefs and let them know that when they get older they can make their own educated choice.
I have been telling my children from a young age my point of views. So start now with yours. Even if your wife loves you, eventually because of these strong point of views from both you. There is a chance you both might get a divorce. Because deep down, she is thinking that one day you will change your mind.
you made an agreement, presumably after a discussion with your spouse. if you want to change the agreement, we're not the folks with whom to discuss it. your spouse is, if you're still with your spouse. if you're not, all bets are off, if you have custody, and you may do as you please.