I'm an atheist, and while my mind will never change, I was told something once that felt like a knife in my heart. I was saying someone at the time and I had become friends with his sister. They were a religious family and she was involved in the church but he wasn't so much. She was engaged and my then boyfriend and his sister were talking and she was brave enough to tell him that I would never be able to marry because I didn't have god in my heart and marriage was only between a man, woman and god. That hasn't changed my mind, but I thought it was pretty interesting that she say that. She basically told him then he should leave me. It's haunted me a bit ever since.
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belfo
Level 6
Sep 29, 2018
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Religion was invented not just to explain the world around us... but also to control people. Using shame, guilt, and "Us vs them" rhetoric is so deeply ingrained. People often don't realize how incredibly hurtful, hateful, and petty they are acting. Im sorry you had to experience that.
Raistlin
Level 4
Nov 21, 2017
3
?? Truth!
Very wisely explained . Correct and to the point .
I believe that it is best to meet someone that thinks as you do. I dated a very religious lady for over 2.5 yrs. and any mention of my belief would throw into a cursing rage . I wasted a lot of my love on this lady and could never get her to just look at the other side.
Cowboy1231
Level 1
Nov 10, 2017
1
I know that feeling all too well, seems they'll date you, enjoy your company in many ways, but once marriage or a long term commitment that resembles marriage (moving in, meeting family, etc.) comes up... all the sudden their beliefs and your lacking belief becomes an issue.
I don't know the whole story in your situation, but the ones I have been through left me feeling... dirty. Like I'd been used and thrown out because I couldn't believe in their god. Like I'd been victim to some kind of conversion scheme sometimes. I don't know. Dirty is the best word I can think of to describe the feeling, used just doesn't accurately describe it.
AndrewM
Level 4
Nov 10, 2017
2
Some of those pious @ssholes can be rotten when it comes to things like that. You shouldn't let it haunt you. She is the whack job...
KingofHarts
Level 7
Nov 9, 2017
1
Don't let other people define who you are. I'd have looked at that boyfriend and asked if that was how HE felt, because that's the only other opinion that would matter in the relationship. I am a strong woman and I need a strong man, not one who will let his sister tell him who to date, and not one who will let me tell him what to do.
That said, I'm here because I don't like conflict, so I'd like to eliminate one potential source from the start.
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Nov 9, 2017
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