It's a bad sign when the criticism and judging starts this early. But it also does you a favor; you're getting a merciful preview before you're in too deep.

I sympathize. Our generation never learned how to communicate well, especially where romantic relationships are concerned. We were shown how our relationships were supposed to look, but the picture presented to us was not realistic. It's uncomfortable to have to step outside the box and bare your soul, but everybody who has suggested that you openly communicate with her is absolutely right.

My suggestions would be to ask questions--like when she seems unaccepting or critical of something you do, ask her what exactly about it bothers her & why? You can ask in a friendly way so she doesn't get defensive. Then you can discuss what do do about the issue, if anything. It's hard to say when you don't say what these things are. Like if you are a smoker, she may want you to quit but if you can't or don't want to, perhaps agree not to smoke around her? (just as an example)

Do you like to touch her? She is being clear about what she wants there, but if you aren't comfortable with a lot of physical contact yet, just tell her you prefer to take things slowly. Otherwise, when she mentions it, that's a good time to tell her that you would also like her to touch you more--you could even tell her what you like--hugs, back rubs, whatever....

Maybe ask her to clarify? Other than conversation, I don’t know. Tell her how you feel.