It is understandable.

Take yourself out on dates while you are waiting. Seriously. Go do something fun.

My VSS-O and I use text a lot (we both get a bit antsy when we fail to see each other less than twice a day). Mostly we just send "I love you"s and "How was the day?" to try to keep it less stalkerish. It's a useful way to deal with the need to see one another. We too are long out of high school so the feelings are not confined to that part of life. And yes there are grief and abandonment issues tied up in the need for both of us too. And as LadyAlyxandrea says, lots of talking in person, seriously about the relationship.

not good, take a metaphorical valium or you'll suffocate him

You are trying to CONTROL him. Back off or he will leave.

Really if he is going to cheat hhe can do that in a few minuits excuse my spelling depending what you consider cheating. even sex he could do quite quickly really so emailing won't change that at all. it will just eat you up till you force him to leave you. if you care about each other and don't like being on your own voice this to him. if he cares he will help you. if he doesnt he doesnt care. theres nothing wrong with wanting to chat as thats what couples do. 24 hours is a long time in a new relashionship. I would just have a good chat when he is home about this.

I empathise, had the same problem but in reverse. I used to travel almost every week for work, usually all week. My wife didn't work and had a cell phone. She would often miss my calls and not call back until hours later. Drove me nuts. I was alternatively worried that something bad had happened to her or that she was cheating on me.

Yes, you are right, sit on your hands and don't email him asking where he is and what he's doing and why you haven't heard from him.

I was on a business trip last week. I didn't have time to communicate except at night at my hotel as every other moment I was with someone, doing something. That's why I went.

If I had someone calling, texting, or e-mailing me more than a few times during the workday, it would drive me nuts.

I recommend setting clear expectations about how often you communicate when he's out of town. Good luck!

Hmmmm......How long have you been seeing each other? Or, how many actual dates have you been on?

Have you had the "We're exlusive" talk, or are you both dating other people?

I remember feeling teh same way, when my boyfriend went away for 2 weeks for Reserves in the summer. Writing letters helped. and he may not be bothered by your questions.

Don't sabotage the relationship. Give it time. Keep busy meanwhile.

Feeling anxious about a relationship sucks. I have a couple of single women friends who have described exactly what you are describing and they are not widows.

Is there a reason you can't talk by phone?

Is there a reason you cannot call him rather than "wait to hear from him?"

Insecurity won't ruin your relationship, a lack of understanding will. On their part. Have you explained to them why you have insecurity and why you're uncomfortable with long periods of silence? If they can't understand and help you work through it, the relationship will fail.