There’s good selfish and there’s bad selfish.

Good selfish means, you’re taking care of you. You’re worrying about you. You take care of yourself. You focus on your self.

Bad selfish means, you do stuff to others that hurts them, destroys others, etc etc etc without the regardless of them or how they feel.

Mainly this post that I’m explaining is that, people who are bad selfish, egotistical, egocentric, entitled, narcissistic people that only wants you to do and be whatever makes them happy without the regardless of you or how you feel. So yeah. That’s how I could put it for now.

Yes. Unfortunately I can speak from experience.

In general, I would agree, but there are times when what a person enjoys doing is destructive to self and/or others. In such cases, I believe that one who truly loves you would try to get you to reconsider or try to direct you away from that destructive pleasure.

Gee, thats a statement to make you think. I have to be careful what i say to my wife. She has mood swings and shes by-polar. We fight with our weight and we're kind of outspoken to each other about that. She takes meds for pain and i have to say something about her drinking or she'll trip and fall. I'm always telling her that its not what you eat or drink. Its how much you eat or drink. Sometimes i just quit saying anything because it becomes heated. I have to hear it the next day how she ate to much or she drank to much. I love my wife. She doesn't like her weight or getting old. She wants to stay young and the beach babe she use to be. Its a challenge sometimes to just say nothing when she says shes needs help one hour and i don't want to hear it the next hour. She's already triped and hurt herself a number of times. Where do i shut up and not speak up? Oh yes, i hear i need to quit smoking or im putting to much sugar in my coffee or stop snacking. Well shucks. I guess if we can learn not to take it personal will be OK...

indeed

You can also substitute the word "happy" with "thrive", prosper", "do well in life", "succeed", etc. Well put Madeline1992.

This is true.

A truly self-centered person knows that they are happiest when they are around others who are happy, wise and strong, and so they work to make themselves and others happy, wise and strong, leading by example, and taking possession of, and responsibility for, the self.
Isn't that funny? Since so many people say 'greedy' and 'self centered' is bad, they are referring to people who manipulate others, who need to win, who are actually quite dependent on the reactions of others.

That's good advice. I'm still working on finding somebody I can be not only attracted to physically but also have an attractive mind.