Sexual Expectations for Teens Who Watch Porn
Pornography... In the "good old days" even though ilegal was available. I saw my first porn film when I was 19, after hours at WMUR-TV in Manchester, NH. The film director brought it in, and after making sure it couldn't get to the transmitter, we watched on the monitors in the control room.
It was very tame compared to what is available today, that anyone with a computer can access. The actors were unattractive and boring, but some commercials and news clips were spliced in that made it funny.
Gail Dines says it well... "The awkward truth, according to one study, is that 90 percent of 8-to-16-year-olds have viewed pornography online. Considering the standard climax to even the most vanilla hard-core scene today, that means there is an entire generation of young people who think sex ends with a money shot to the face."
Let's make it very clear, teen girls are watching porn, too, it is not just a boy issue. Are they thinking they should expect/want the money shot on their face?
Women I have talked to say that dating guys into porn have unrealistic ideas of sexuality. It is near impossible to find a porn clip that that showns a romatic prelude and anything near normal in the act.
Do women also have distorted expectations?
And there is so much kinky sex... but for some it fulfills a fantasy. I know personally, I produced several videos for Anika Sondholm Productions and The Collector.
Wnat is your view on how porn is corrupting the next generation?
Let's be honest with ourselves, as hard as we try, if boys or girls want to watch porn they will find a way to do it. Or think of it this way, I had a friend who became an alcoholic at 13, she said she could always find a way to procure it!
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After emails and phone conversations, I met a man at a mountain café 90 miles away. It was April and cold. Oddly, he insisted on eating outdoors. All of the sane diners were eating inside. After driving over snowy Blewett Pass, I was warmly dressed in winter boots, ski jacket, hat and gloves. So I said okay.
As soon as our lunch was served and the waitress walked away, he leaned over the table and asked me to join him in group sex. Aghast, I was momentarily speechless. "NO WAY!" I exploded, and asked suspiciously, "Whatever gave you the idea that I'd be interested in THAT?"
"You said you were very liberal," he replied. "That refers to my political beliefs, not my sexual inclinations!" I shot back. I stood up and left, forgetting to take a doggie bag.
I drove home hungry and fuming. Arriving home, I rushed to my computer, logged into Match and changed my political beliefs to "liberal."
LiterateHiker
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Apr 6, 2018
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SACatWalker, I didn't change my values or beliefs. I simply changed the way Match.com labeled my politics. It was a choice: Very liberal, liberal, independent, conservative or very conservative.
Back in the '80s I had a friend that boasted her could walk into a bar and walk up to women and ask her to have sex with him. He boasted he might get laughed at, slapped, but in the course of an hour he would be taking somebody home. We laughed at him, but decided to call his bluff and set up a little wager. He agreed, we chose the bar, didn't tell him where it was and drove him there. Being as this was before mobile phones there was no way he could set something up. To our amazement he scored, took a little longer than an.hour, but he won our bet. I would never have the chutzpah to try it, but one of the other guys did, so we selected another bar and he was successful in about 30 minutes.
So your guy was working the same theory plus he misinterpreted your post, or read his fantasy into it. Now he will move onto the next woman... I also had a boss, older, short, but lots of personality, I saw him "cut one out of the pack," as he called it on several occasions, usually much younger and attractive, he only targeted the pretty ones.
I was told that a lot of success has to do with reading body language, this friend and I went out for drinks and he pointed out how he could tell who was there looking for action. If we watched his choices long enough they usually left with somebody. Hasn't this been the subject of many country songs?.Hell, I'm not as good as I once was either. The laughable part of that statement,I met up with an old friend after we found each other on the internet, as we met and we sat down to dinner she says, "I'm not as good as I once was" and I responded "I'm as good once as I always was," I took it to mean she had opened the door, we laughed our way through dinner and... The rest shall we say is history,
I didn't answer the poll because I do think she's wrong but I do think expectation are set by society and by eachother... not by porn specifically.
I don't think porn is the reason for such expectations. Teens are sexually curious balls of hormones. They are also very hard on each other, pushing each other to do or try more and more. I mean honestly, have you seen the idiotic challenges being posted online? Sex isn't any different. If anything is corrupting them it's that. Peer preasure.
AmyLF
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Apr 6, 2018
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Why is porn corrupting, exactly? I grew up in a family that collected and sold erotic art... extremely explicit from Japan, China, India, and Thailand. Saw plenty of porn movies during 80s as a teen. On Betamax even. LOL. I turned out normal, I think. Marrried 23 years, and the expectations of my sex life are pretty tame.
jperlow
Level 7
Apr 6, 2018
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The porn of the '80s was tame compared to what's out there today, And there will be those that watch it and say that's not how it should be, But I still agree with Gail Dines, it is a concern when kids in their formative years, especially those with no parental education about sex. I'm no longer waiting for that talk from my father, I know it isn't going to happen, be died at 93 when I was 69. Get my point, a good education in sex and romance takes a lot of this off the table. Same with marijuana, fine for adults to smoke it, IMHO, but kids during their formative years, maybe not such a good idea.
Really? Do you seriously believe that kids are being corrupted by porn?..or that 80% of boys expect to give a girl a facial? Or that girls expect a facial? Or due to exposure to anal sex will make young women want it because it's Expected of them?
Seems to me you have a low opinion of young adults ability yo seperate fantasy form reality.
I suggest you look at the Never Again movement as to what teens find more important in life.
Charlene
Level 9
Apr 6, 2018
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I am perfectly fine with porn and do not find it corrupting. And I have never met a single person - age regardless - to buy it for the real thing.
I remember how a boy brought a porn magazine to school when I was 8. The whole class had a look into it when the teacher was not around... And dismissed it as unrealistic.
blago84
Level 5
Apr 6, 2018
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Studies show that men who are hooked on porn get diminishing returns on the sex scenes until they are unable to have orgasms with normal sex, and their human relationships fail.
birdingnut
Level 8
Apr 6, 2018
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You're right. I met one man who could only orgam while watching online porn. He could not respond to a living, breathing woman. Sad.
yes, this is more common than you would think. There are whole online communities about breaking the addiction
With the popularity of online porn, men now expect women to have anal sex in their sexual repetoire.
"YOU FIRST," I reply firmly. "YOU go get f-cked up the ass by a well-hung man, and tell me how you liked it." That shuts them up.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
Apr 5, 2018
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Good one! Wish I'd known this clever line before. These days, there's no chance any man would suggest anal sex done to me without getting tossed out.
birdingnut, Thank you. As a lifelong smart-aleck, I'm quick on the draw.
"Have YOU been f-ucked up the ass?" is another good retort. That shuts them down.
I'd be careful with that one, there are straight guys that enjoy anal penetration! Still, a good answer.
@LiterateHiker l put it wherever the woman asks. Some women like anal, so l accommodate. I let the woman guide me as to what gets them off. I never suggest it.
Lincster45, I am perfectly capable of saying no.
I wasn't really interested, but a woman asked me to do it ... and it was pretty awesome, so you never know...
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