i am scared.i have been single for a while now and i have been finding it difficult to get a mate.i had a relationship before but it was not healthy,always filled with fights.
should i continue searching or go back to the bad relationship ?
this single hood thing is scary.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Understand you completely. Was married 28 years, she was an alcoholic the last 15, I found out the last 3. Thats 12 years of blaming myself for distancing, communication problems, etc.
Yet when I am lonely I still know there is one person that "gets" me the way others seem not to. And if I could trust her to fix things, I never would have left. Watching her keep making the same types of decisions, kept me sane the first year after the divorce, and now just convinces me I made the best decision.
Be patient, keep your head up, don't get jaded.
TaylorWalston
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July 12, 2020
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Dealing with alcoholic/addict spouse is very challenging. You want them to be able to change as they promise; in the end, mine was trying to convince me to start drinking/using with them and that just was not an option.
@sarbot yeah, I tried negotiating at first, how about just Friday nights with me so we can get a handle on it. Unfortunately nothing worked.
Going back is not healthy...you got out for a reason! Unless one or both of you has gotten extensive counseling?
AnneWimsey
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July 5, 2020
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