I think parents with mentally ill children, are enabling their kids by buying everything they want and need. My mom didn't do that raising me. I'm mentally ill too. Not as bad as most here, but some of them could handle a job. 2 guys here do. With that one girl I posted about, she has everything paid for. Her sister pays for her Netflix, her mom pays for her phone bill, food, spending money, horse lessons, and everything she owns in her room. I asked her when she wanted to connect to my Wi-Fi, that she has to pay half the bill, because I'm paying for the Wi-Fi for me. She said, "No thanks." She's never paid for anything, unless her mom gives her $20 to spend.
Is that enabling people? Many folks here have that issue.
One guy here, had a job years ago, lost it, and now can't get one. Well, he could if he listened to me and took my advice. He has a huge, long, unkept beard and long wild hair. I told him he needs to trim up or shave and get a haircut. As well as dress up for applying for jobs. He's still jobless and his parents pay for all his stuff now. He's 36-years-old. No one takes my advice. He asked for my advice too. I never give it out freely anymore. He had told me he applied for jobs, but couldn't get one working in a restaurant. Duh! Men can't get jobs looking like they are cave men. Same for women. Dress for the job you want. I did, I was hired on the spot for my first job. I even called back 4 days after applying too. I asked if he called back, he said he didn't. But don't listen to anyone whom has a job, right?
Anyway, do parents enable their kids growing up, ones with mental illnesses, or are they truly helping them? IMO, they're hurting them.