Does Love exist?
Given the current social climate, I feel conflicted with complimenting women without it coming across as objectifying. So, how do you tell a stranger that you find them attractive without objectifying them? Do you say something neutral, like, "nice weather", and then casually suggest getting a coffee? Do you offer a mild compliment, like, "your outfit is nice"? Is it selfish to ask a stranger to go out of their way to further socialize with you, simply because you find them attractive to the eye? Is it manipulation to ask a stranger to invest their time in you, when your interest is in the stranger? Is love just one person manipulating another into attraction?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.The header and footer, i.e. the headline and the final line appear to be at odds with the body of your comment. The former mentions love wheras the content of the body speaks of attraction and how to express it. Have you ever heard of flirting? 
If she responds in kind she is interested. If her response is cold make your excuses and leave (leaving isn't compulsory, you could just accept the enevitable and have a normal human conversation )
SimonCyrene
Level 7
Apr 13, 2018
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My apologies if my question seems poorly worded. The headline question, "does love exist?" isn't meant to be a straight forward question with a simple answer, but an introspective question designed to make people second-guess what their understanding of love really is. Is love just the attraction felt between two people? Is love the attraction of one party convincing another party to be attracted to the first party? At what point does mutual attraction become love? Is love just infatuation, but substituting altruism in place of romance? What is the very concept of 'Love' itself?
Hi...obviously you think a lot, lol. Yes love exists. Hmmmmm. No it isn't manipulation. Well, sometimes we try to get people we love to do stuff but love is about caring about the person.
thinkwithme
Level 7
Apr 12, 2018
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So, what exactly is the difference between love and altruism?
@Ginga_Ninja Altruism, the latin word for other people, is about being devoted to their well being, which is love. Altruism means selflessness. In caring for you, I leave my previous experience of self, and find you.
Yeah, I never tell anyone that they’re attractive. Society is so sensitive, we can’t hurt anyone’s feelings, and we have to pamper each other. It’s bullshit and we are weaker for it.
NothinnXpreVails
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Apr 12, 2018
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