As a counter point to the 10 commandments for women , I'd like to contribute a story my Mother told me , just before my marriage . As the newly weds were getting ready for their first night , the groom takes off his trousers and tosses them on the bed , then says to the new wife , put these on . She ways , but they're too big for me . To which he responds , remember that , and don't try to wear the pants in the family . At which point she takes off her panties and tosses them to him , telling him to put them on . He says to her , but they're too small , I'll never get into those . And she responds , remember that because that's the way things will remain , until you change your attitude .