Using “they” and “them” as singular pronouns is simple. It just takes a little retraining of the brain. At first, it sounded like multiple personality disorder.

Today I read a wonderful an article in Time magazine about Akwaek Emezi, a remarkable author and poet who grew up in Nigeria and is Black, queer and trans.

Reading sentences like this will take a little brain retraining:

"In writing "Dear Senthuran," Emezi says, they wanted to do the opposite of what they learned many years ago in order to traverse white spaces they find themself in."

People can call themselves by whatever personal pronouns they want. It's important to respect their wishes.