When we're discussing something, we first need to define what we're discussing. Words have no intrinsic meaning, they are just descriptions. So what exactly do you mean by 'love'?

Thank you all. So much.
This was amazingly helpful.

I agree with another comment I saw here . You need to love your self , before you can love someone else . If you look at all the people/things people say they love , the only thing they all have in common , is they make you feel good about yourself . So let's look at your favorite pet , for example . Let's say someone gave you a puppy when you were young . The puppy is cute , it smells good , it's excited and wiggles all over the place . It follows you around , happy to be in your presence , plays with you , and makes you laugh . You look at your parent and say . Can we keep it . Then it chews up your homework , pees on your floor , needs to be fed , watered , and walked . Then you feel more like you're it's slave . You grumble . Eventually , you decide whether the trouble is worth it's attentions .
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Ever seen “Remains of the Day?” The main character comes very close to being “in love,” but never quite gets out of his cage to touch the face of love. Very sad. My Grandmother once told me that she had never been in love despite her many years. I was sad for her. I think it enriches you. You still are very young and have time to experience love. Keep the door open. It can walk in any day of your life.

One of the greatest problems i have with the English language is that whe it comes to feelings of love the language is brossly lacking in a covabulary that can adequately desribe it. Thsi may be true for other languages too.

Anyway, I think "in love" is basically carign for someone else either equally or more than you care for yourself. Which may explain why peopel with low self esteem seem to alwasy choose poor partners. If you dont' think much of yourself, it is easy to care for someone else more even if they are unhdeserving of it.

I should probably add that I'm gay. And came out 2 years ago. So it's not that I'm heartless or cold, I've just been pretending for 12 years prior to this new life. I'm just curious about how you know...or if it's different for everyone...I just wanted to talk about it. I love the idea of being in love.

Too early to use the word never.

have you ever eaten cold ice cream on a 100 degree day??
its so sastifilying isnt it????
to me thats what it feels to be in love.
to actually have some one in your life you cares and values you as a person.
to have some in your life that u know you can count on to be there for you.
and who will always have your back.

You're young. Apparently your baby's father and you didn't know each other that well? Give it time. It feels like you are on a cloud and don't want tocome down.

Start loving yourself first believe me you will know what love is then

Hard to remember, I didn't have an ounce of blood in my brain.

You feel so vulnerable towards another human being. It can happen when you least expect it, but just make sure you allow yourself to indulge on it with the right person and at the right time, or it can break your heart.

I always believe you become infatuated before you fall in love. The newness of a relationship and learning everything about the other person, including their likes, history, family and friends, etc. I know some people fall in love quicker than others. My wife asked me out on a date, and within a month she told me she loved me. It was around five months when I found myself in love with her. You will know when you are in love because they are on your mind most of the day. Thinking of spending time and sharing experiences with them will fill your mind. Love is wonderful and exciting!

OK, at 21 I was married, 26 had one child, 27 had a 2nd child.
I didn't fall in love until I was 40.
I gave it much thought, assumed love was a fairy story and over rated, just as sex seemed to be.
But at 40 I experienced both was great.
Hvae had better and worse sex sinee, have loved other ladies since,(never loved my ex wife)
but have never been "in love" again.
Wish I could, 20 years later I still wonder "what if".
What does it feel like?
Like coming home after being shipwricked and floating on a life raft in rough seas for ever.

I've known five people who don't have the ability to feel love. I think our President lacks that ability. To try and explain it is like trying to explain what an acid trip feels like or what being on antidepressants feels like. Some things are very difficult to explain in a way you would understand. I am not sure you can explain what love feels like to someone like yourself. This is by no means about your intelligence or ability to understand. Maybe someone else here can be more help.

In my experience:
It feels like you've been together for all time and will be.
That's the heartbreak of falling in love.
As soon as you find them, you realize there will come a time when one of you (or both of you) will die, and you won't be together (at least, the way you are now).
So, you cherish every moment together.

What did you feel when you first held your child....