My ex (we were married 16 years, 18 year relationship) started dating a woman in October, moved in with her in November, proposed in December, married in February. He's a narcissist, was living in a 20-year-old travel trailer in a rundown trailer park, addicted to porn, sex, alcohol, and drugs. She was living in her aunt's house. He told her he was a lifetime bachelor with a great-paying job who had never been in love until her, he knew in 2 weeks he had met "the one," blah, blah, blah... She has no idea he is paying an ex wife, $1,000 a month in alimony for 10 years, has 3 judgments against him for more than $80k, very poor credit, no money, and has multiple STDs. What kind of woman gets engaged 2 months after meeting a man and married in less than 4 months? For the first time in 20 years I finally live in peace, so I am greatful but I do feel sorry for her.

Nope. I would and have gone to my male friends. I have been offered a place to stay a couple of times by a couple of my platonic female friends, but I would never ask. Women do this as much or more than men in my experience.

Yep! Fact! Especially if that place to stay is an oceanfront condo on a tropical island, in a great location convenient to everything.

My ex-boyfriend came back to the island recently without a place to stay, he sure tried to worm his way back into my life, saying NOW he knows how to be true to one woman, haha! His "love bombing" eased up once he found a place with a 6 month lease and understood that "no" means "no" with me.

Now, he's schmoozing me for rides, since he doesn't have a car. I limit the amount of time I spend with him - he's got a lot more free time than me - but I help him with rides when it's convenient for me.

When he lived with me, it sure saved him lots of money in rent which he likely spent on the women he was cheating on me with, haha. Not doing that again! I may be a slow learner, and gave him the benefit of the doubt 1000 times too many, so I'm happy to close the door on that one.

Yup

How about a woman? It depends on the other person and place.

Nope

I looove the scammers/whatever, soooo romantic: "will relocate for the right person", i.e. he is living in his car after Mommy kicked him out of her basement

That makes sense. I've seen it happen once. Did it happen to you?