Relationships are very difficult for me. I work all the time and can be emotionally distant. I'm a massive over thinker and constantly need space. I find that it takes a specific kind of woman to deal with that. As an INTJ with a love of BDSM I can't just do the whole standard relationship. I'm not nessacerally lonely but I'm without a connection.
I'm a fairly empathetic person, but I honestly have nothing for you, as I just can't relate to that much difference between us regarding the BDSM and being so introverted on top of that. I wish you the best, tho I suppose living in TN doesn't help you find connection easily with compatible women.