Better to have loved and lost than spend the rest of your life with a psycho.

Divorce is always rough, even under the best of circumstances. I'm sorry you're going through that. It sounds like a rough one. I went through one after 30 years of marriage. It wasn't messy, as the kids were grown...just sad. We're still friends. As for narcissists, you are better off going no contact, but losing your daughter to it is the worst part. When she becomes an adult, she may decide she wants a relationship with you. It's not my place to give you advice, but if it were me, I'd leave that door wide open. My sister is a narcissist, so I understand. Nobody can make you feel as crappy as a narcissist can. You are taking that back. She can't have that power over you anymore. My sister is almost completely out of my life, and 1,000 miles away. Whew! it feels pretty good. Good luck to you.

Divorce is a bitch! My ex kept taking me to court for stupid shit! One time he thought he could take the house back when both kid's moved out, he didn't get shit, just scolded by the judge who also scolded his lawyer. Another time he tried suing me for $6000.00 for our daughter's braces, she was already 19 year's old and decided she wanted to live with him. My lawyer called me to go to his office, he called my exes lawyer on speaker phone and told his lawyer that he knows he's not going to get shit again, his lawyer said well he pays him $1500.00 in cash so he , his lawyer gets paid for doing nothing. Yeah, narcissists lose too!

Hope all goes well for you, take deep breaths and try to just go with the flow or drink some beers and play metal, fuck it, that's what I do!