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LINK 8 Things Alpha Females Do Differently

Being alpha is not easy in the dating world. I am not bossy or rude. In fact I am loving and accommodating. I just can’t put up with any stupidity or disrespect. I also do not believe in 2nd chances!

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I'm right there with you on second chances. I had a couple of guys recently expect that from me but once I slam that door it stays closed because I've already moved on.

ProudMerry Level 7 May 18, 2018
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I'm not an alpha at all, but that being said I don't tolerate being disrespected. I treat people how I expect to be treated. If that isn't a 2 way street I'm gone. I have had to make a life rule that if someone doesn't add positively to my life they can't be in it. I get enough bullshit that I can't get rid of like at work or with family that I don't allow any extra crap in my life. Sounds harsh after I reread it but I have found that you have to draw the line somewhere so as not to get drawn into other's people's drama.

Ktcyan Level 6 May 16, 2018

It took me a long time to reach that conclusion too! I can do bad all on my own, don't need a partner in that. If you don't bring in positivity to my life. Bye!

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I think people change at different stages of their lives, so these over-simplifications are not always useful . some people are alpha when solo, but become beta when in a relationship dynamic that forces them to sublimate an aspect of their persona.

I think that change is what makes me unhappy. I feel like another person and tend to suppress my feelings.

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Sounds more like a type A personality. I want, prefer and seek out strong women. I want to be with a woman who knows what she wants and who she is and expects to be treated as such. Definetly do not enjoy those overly focused, goal obsessed, living with blinders on types who don't want to hang out, wander and smell the flowers: regardless their gender.

kmdskit3 Level 8 May 15, 2018

Type A is more of an aggressive type person, I think. As others have said these are just generalizations. But some male attorneys I have worked with yell, pound their fists, turn red as I sit there and wonder if they will have a stroke. They call themselves type A and are very proud of it.

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@goldrose I think of Type A's as more super focused, driven and pretty much goal obsessed. That can be someone who is aggressive like your examples of those guys but I would say they're just being bullies/spoiled children who are throwing an adult version of a fit until they get what they want. I would go even farther and say there's a decent amount of toxic masculinity involved. I guess this is just my long-winded way of saying you can be Type A without also being aggressive.

@goldrose I could certainly be mistaken but iirc there are "grades" of A, etc. You might work with uber EXTRA A, or something. A million years ago (seemingly) I was
graded" A2 (?

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Does not putting up with rudeness and disrespect make one an alpha female?

I don't know what I am to be honest.

Good point! If you aren't a doormat you're a type A woman! rolls eyes

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That particular article wouldnt open b/.c work firewall. but all the other articles ive read about so called alpha females, talk about social leadership/ queen bee/ drama mama. not my thing at all.

Drama mammas I have met many times living close to Hollywood. I think they have more of a personality disorder. I avoid drama at all cost.

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Raised both daughters to take no shit, question authority, not to be intimidated.
Self defense, honesty about typical human interactions, and what most guys are up to.
Alpha ? Don't know about that but I do know they don't tolerate nonsense or play the Game.

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I'm usually all of those things (from the article) but I get tripped up on labels like "alpha." I appreciate what it means, but I'm just me, no labels, take no shit. smile001.gif

poetdi56 Level 7 May 15, 2018

poetdi56 I agree with you about labels. though I WOULD stress that I have absolutely no problem a'tall if someone or someone(s) prefer to go ahead and use the label, or maybe description of their personality as a means of communicating who they are. It's fine with me. to be blunt, in humans, I don't think I actually "get" what alpha means.

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I want both of my daughter's to be Alpha Females...but I would be slightly concerned that potential male partners that are perfectly delightful in every may find this type of female a little intimidating or scary.

Hitchens Level 6 May 15, 2018

the way ive seen them described, its more the domineering queen bee personality. not what i want for my daughter

@sarahjustme. Yea..thats what worries me.

I’ve noticed men want to be needed and a center of a woman’s life. My independence is a huge problem. I had to force myself to ask the last guy I dated to help me with things so he could feel needed.

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@goldrose Nothing wrong with being a strong woman but it would be great to be the centre of each other's life ..well aspirationally anyway.

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Interesting

Kassie Level 6 May 15, 2018
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Seems that makes you human.

Charlene Level 8 May 15, 2018
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Are alpha females attracted to alpha males? how does all of that stuff work?

WillP2020 Level 5 May 15, 2018

No. A guy tells me what to do and I am already walking to my car. I guess a moderate Alpha may work. lol

good question, but I'd think that there is a lot more going on there than simply having alphas attract alphas. I for one tend to attract broken people. My daughter has found that she attracts a dominant, yet still passive aggressive type.

Its wondrously complicated, and doesn't always make any sense smile001.gif

What does everyone else think?

@DerekD how broken, if that's not too intrusive?

@redeemed most often, it's people who are angry at life, see my generally happy outlook, and think that I can make them feel the same. But it varies - I think a friend of mine put it best when she said, "If you give off positive feelings, you will undoubtedly attract some negative people; the world within seeks balance".

had a double post thing goin on. long story!

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@goldrose fair enough. thanks smile009.gif

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LOL Most of the women I know are like that. Dating has nothing to do with any of it.

KKGator Level 8 May 15, 2018

I disagree. Sometimes I wish I could be like my friends. They have no problem kissing ass and letting the guys spoil them. I have too much pride and guys feel they have nothing to offer.

my first wife (kids birth-giver) left and came back 14 times in six and a half years; each time I took her back based off the erroneous belief that I had to sacrifice anything to hold my family together, for the sake of my kids. The last time she left, she tried to come back once more, after being gone three years at that point. And by then, I could see how much better my kids were doing without her there to neglect them. With that under my belt, I told her flat-out 'no'.

Men and women both go through this, for a variety of reasons. And I'll still give a second chance - but you can damn sure bet I'll not give a third. Not anymore.

@DerekD Not everyone is meant to be a parent, or a partner.

@DerekD wow, that's tough. I am glad you are there for your children.

@goldrose Maybe they feel they have nothing to offer, because they don't.
No man is worth "dumbing down" for, or kissing his ass. Spoil yourself.

@KKGator yup, totally agree..

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To be honest witnessing women put up with dudes’ horrendous bullshit and then keep giving them more chances totally blows my mind.

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Alpha jargon is pop psychology and pseudoscientific.

Precisely .... using properly terminology, we describe men and women as more agentic ... not as "alphas" ... but that isn't sexy enough ya know? ... sigh

@evestrat party poopers!

but but Im really a wolf! I know because ive seen them on TV and they are really cool

@sarahjustme ---- growls and howls!!!! smile009.gif LOL!!!

@sarahjustme LMAO!!!

@sarahjustme I can see all the cheesy clip stock art in the FB albums now LMAO

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How would you define an Alpha girl?

KenG Level 5 May 15, 2018

Independent woman that does not depend on anyone for anything. She is successful at whatever she does and takes care of her loved ones. Loyal, loving but does not put up with anything or anyone that causes her trouble or grief. I run a successful law firm and raised two children by myself with no help. I would like to give up my alpha status and start depending on others but have been let down too many times.

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@goldrose why would you like to give up alpha status? It sounds awesome! After reading this article, I was not sure why anyone would want to be not alpha (beta?). If one is actively pursuing love, doesn't it imply that he or she believes that life will be better when he or she finds it? If that is the case, does it not imply an alpha would not pursue love as there is no need for it? If somehow love happens, great! If not, life is going great anyway!

@srikanth sometimes I get tired of making all the decisions and would like some emotional support.

@goldrose How would you define a non Alpha woman?

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You remind me of my daughter (which is probably the best compliment I could give anyone). She is kind beyond words, helps her friends, and cares deeply about everyone. That being said, if you frak up intentionally, she's done.

I commend you for your honesty, and your strength!

DerekD Level 7 May 15, 2018

Thank you smile001.gif

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