Most people I speak with now seem a little jealous that I don't have kids. People used to ask me about why I didn't want kids. I just said I never wanted to have them, which is true. I have some characteristics of both of my parents. There was no way I would ever bring a child into this world that might suffer some of what I went through.

I alway bring it up early to eliminate women who want to become mothers. Now that I'm older, it is a non-issue. One less complication in a relationship.

I once got a divorce, in part, because my ex had apparently believed that I would change my mind about kids. We had discussed it many times, and he was supposedly in strong agreement, and yet...

That meant that when I started dating again, I was even more blunt about it. I'm sure sometimes I came off as rude. I don't regret that a bit. I'm with a great man now who supported me when I got 'fixed' and we look forward to a lifetime of great child free years.

I actually take a bit of joy in implying that people who think that we're missing out are just miserable creatures who want some company in their bad decisions. I don't much care who I offend when it comes to this particular topic.

Happens to me so often to me in the past i replied to it without being asked.

That way, just the way it turned out . Wasn't a plan, but it really isn't anyone else's business . I would have to know someone for a while before I would ever quiz them about a choice that is this personal . People can't mind their own affairs .

I get that from several women I have dated. I notice I get it more often from single mothers who can't for the life of them understand why I don't have at least one somewhere in the world. I can't even speculate on why they would presume that. Heaven forbid that I ever dare to bring up the idea of a vasectomy. The looks that gathers is amazing. I think I would get less foul looks from $hitting on their dinner.

I didn't plan to be childless. I started out childless, and year after year I continued to be childless. Women are suspicious of childless men, since modern men seem to leave a trail of children from two or three mothers.

Not wanting kids is not a character flaw, it perplexes me why some perceive it to be. The planet is overpopulated, my decision was good for me and the environment. Ask them what they are doing to offset the carbon footprint of their mini-mes.