A half year ago, for a few months, I got heavily into MBTI. On the same test, I once got INTP, another time INTJ. Three different tests said ISTP, which is what the co-worker who got me interested in all this typed me to be. These three types, along with the ISTJ, are all very closely related. I can definitely relate to being poorly equipped to meet the emotional needs of others. I've had to work on smiling more, showing appreciation of and affection for others, and being more positive in general. All of those things seem to come more naturally when I'm taking good care of myself with eating, sleeping, exercise, and time-management. And it feels virtually impossible when I'm highly stressed, feeling low on energy, and less positive about myself.

Hmm. I'm INTP as well, but I don't feel like that at all. If anything, I spend too much time trying to fulfill the emotional needs of others, to my own detriment.

But that may be a learned trait, in an effort to "get along".

Well then we are first cousins in this. When I was employed in sales I tested as an INTP. Now that I'm retired, I'm an INTJ. I've taken the test several times since I retired and it always comes out the same. But the bottom line is neither type is easy to get along with. And we're also pretty tough on ourselves.

One can always work on their emotional intelligence.