Hello. I'm Janeen. My daughter came out bi me a little over a year ago. Her dad doesn't know. He's part of a very fundamentalist type of church and she's afraid tell him because she's afraid he won't want anything do with her or worse. We're divorced a great bit due his religion. He moved South Korea teach English about a year ago and since he left she's really come out of her shell. Months before he left, she was cutting herself because her relationship with him was so difficult for her. She had already stopped going to church by this point. I hate that kids telling their parents have to be such a difficult thing for them. It shouldn't be. She has friends who came out to their parents, one friend immediately banned my from their home blaming her for it. Our world is crazy. Anyway, wanted to introduce myself. I realize I probably have a lot to learn in order to be a better ally. I'm trying though.
There is nothing wrong with anyone sexual orientations. She really doesn't need to tell her dad anything. If he finds out himself then it's on him to deal with it. Meanwhile you try to enforce too her how beautiful her feelings are encourage her to enjoy her life and be herself 100% of the time.. freedom is to be oneself and to be free makes one slays happy confident and strong.
WELCOME to the group. Hey...when I was growing up it wasn't a thing to come out to people...well...except those you were involved with...they all knew. My father NEVER would have accepted ME being bi, my mother might have accepted it...somewhat...but through my life i found I'm bi but i lean toward men. I've moved away from my 'home' area...and i am actually opening up more and more...at MY age i am STILL finding things out about myself. I guess it's BEST to be who you are AS YOU REALIZE things....but it seems our society...BECAUSE it is a PATRIARCHAL society...only thinks ONE WAY...and a man having sex with a man, or a woman having sex with a woman...is NOT totally acceptable...not YET. IF THIS was a MATRIARCHAL society...it'd be NO problem...we'd all be who we are...NO QUESTIONS asked...no problems, no psycho analyzing. Just...be who you are.