If we are unable to take the step to be vulnerable enough to really love another person then we will never achieve that state of love. The world is full of broken people, we have to push past that, use our common sense and then take a leap of faith if we want to find someone we can truly trust and love. Not an easy thing to do but it is possible, I'm proof of this, I was broken, parts of me still are but I found love and I did it by taking a chance.
If by being mean, you mean no longer putting up with sexism, bad behavior, and abuse, I guess I’m never going to have a boyfriend and I’m just fine with it. Since I’ve been divorced, there has not been one day when I’ve said to myself, I wish I was still married or I wish I had a man.