New here! I’m kind of a closeted atheist with some family and friends. Especially around older folks. They’re always saying “I’ll pray for you!” Or “God bless you!” And I hate to be rude, so I say thank you. Anyone else have this problem where they feel obligated to be polite to believers?
Well.. it's just good to be polite to family, friends, old folk.. anyone really. But I think the bigger issue for me would be that the people I am dealing with don't really know me if I am not being honest with them.
I thank them for their concern but frequently say something like, "Your god must be pleased with your thoughtfulness." I have found that religious people like to have their devotion acknowledged. This makes it easier for them to accept my non devotion.
You raise an interesting point. You are a closet atheist Just imagine how many like you are out there and think: "Why do I have to pretend?" I am convinced that many "believers“ are just believers of convenience.
A few years back I had to think about secret ballots. Since my first vote I was suspicious of the practice. Unless there is really danger for one's life etc. they should be open. And the principle applied to more facets of life.
Nowadays we are told about privacy and even friends would be reluctant to give out other friends' phone numbers. Yet I still remember time when phone numbers were listed in public phone books.
Sorry ... going off on a tangent.
I hope you can become brave enough to liberate yourself without too much drama. Good luck!
I’ve always figured that when people say those things, it’s generally intended out of kindness. They don’t know what else to do and so fall back on what they know. I’ve never felt the need to pick a fight unnecessarily. I generally prefer to avoid confrontation when possible.
I still say bless you when someone sneezes. Old habit. If someone says "I'll pray for you", it depends who it is. If it is someone I care about and I don't want to offend them, then I just keep my mouth shut. But it is sometimes hard to hide the eye roll. I don't think there is anything wrong with being a polite atheist, in the right situations. I just figure they are doing it for their benefit, not mine, and I respect their beliefs. The one that I hate the most though is in a time of grieving, when someone says "it was god's plan" or "they are in a better place". Really? They are better off now that they are dead then when they were here with family? That one is just offensive.