Have you ever made a change to your environment that made a noticeable improvement to your sense of happiness or well being?
Moving to Lopez (which wasn't my idea). It has made a huge difference in my finances (Seattle has become unaffordable for many), my self-sufficiency, independence (even when I was with a partner), my awe for nature and my community involvement and general satisfaction with life!
It’s only been about a week for me, but I feel drastically happier living alone. I fixed some lights, set up my stereo system, baby proofed and decluttered this last weekend. It’s awsome to live in a clean apartment and know it won’t be trashed when you get back. I get to use the furniture that I was forced to put into storage, and can remove the bad decorations my ex put up. I have a few more projects to remove my ex’s poor taste, but it’s almost all mine. I’m amazed how much space there is without all her cosmetics, and the bathroom no longer seems to grow a rug on the linoleum.
I once had a client that was unreasonably demanding and my wife saw how stressed-out I was and introduced me to the concept of firing a troublesome client. For some reason it had never occurred to me that I had the right to say this isn't working for me, you need to find someone else to work with. I followed her advice and it was one of the best business decisions I ever made.
My wife had also applied this principle to extended family. She comes from a lot of dysfunction and was always the person trying to hold everything together. One day she realized no one gave a fig about this but her, so why was she doing it? It's been nice just watching the stress / anxiety bleed out of her after she made this decision.
it was my working environment and i took my boss to a tribunal, but the result was 'case not proven', what made it happy was that I got compensation and hightailed it out of there - I did actually see him again as a few years later , I was invited to his new place of work (by his college) to do a creative expressive therapy group - It was great ignoring him, and even greater that our group got on well together and laughed and cried a lot - something he could never manage, revenge is sweet!