Adding to that....i really don’t know why anyone should want to get married....that is just my humble opinion.

when i was growing up girls didn’t have dreams or goals other than marriage, kids a house and good chicken recipes. The role of the female was clearly defined...homemaker and mother. i was raised catholic so five or six kids were also part of the dream. Right now i would never use the words in public that i would use on someone who would dare tell me what my role in life should be. life under these circumstances was a big fight. All the way. i left that bloody church, went back to school and got my BA. i was criticized by my family. My mother told me i had to stay in my place. I got married and now i am a widow...living independently. i have two daughters and grandchildren. Life is good. I am soooooo glad i fought for what i wanted.

Yes, I grew up taught it was an essential part of life.
go to school, get a job, get married, raise a family, grow old, die.

Yep.

I don't see marriage as a goal or a tool, but merely a choice - for some.

We all change, and what at one time in our lives, served our purpose in a positive way, no longer does that, so I agree, time to move on if that's the case.

My first marriage ended 24 years ago. We are still friends and watch out for each other.

Maybe double check you're using the tool right 1st. Otherwise yep.