For nonbelievers, how open are you to dating a believer?
I'm actually in that experiment currently - it's been going for almost four months. But cracks are beginning to show - mostly involving his ups and downs involving the loss of his wife of many years. And I admit - seeing bibles and geezus references all over his house is wearing me down ... ugh.
He may be ultimately headed towards the "friend zone" ...
For myself, I don't care. But don't expect me to go to church (or whatever). While I like the idea of family get togethers and the Christmas holiday is perfect for this, I'm not into Christmas decorations -- is she wants them, she can put them up and take them down. No Christmas trees, I'm allergic to pine. Don't expect me to pray, except to acknowledge the lives that have been taken for our food. Don't try to convert me, I can argue quite effectively -- it will destroy any relationship I have. No religious meetings or parties in my home. I am as I am. While I change it will never be towards any make-up supernatural idea.
If she believes... IN ME, then 100% open.
No, seriously: If she is not a fundamentalist fanatic, or a roman catholic Mary-worshiper, why not?
For me now, I'd have a difficult time with a believer for any kind of serious relationship. Just seems like too great a divide in the thinking area. That said, my long ago ex boyfriend is a believer, or at least he wants to believe in something and he was absolutely ok and with my nonbelief. He would probably be willing to concede that my view made more sense intellectually but he seemed to have an emotional need to believe in something. He is otherwise a very intelligent man.
If she's not over the top about it, or pushing it on me. There are believers who keep it to themselves.
Could you have a serious, long term relationship?
@itsmedammit I really don't know. My paternal grandparents did it.
I can’t. The best I can do is a serious doubter.
‘Believer’ may need to be defined. I’d met someone recently, too smart to ‘believe,’ but still tied to ‘her church.’ So, thought I, this is a cultural thing … and since I’ve planted myself amid a different culture (Hillbillies) ..apparently, I was willing ..a dang school teacher ~
Interesting, but would you go to church with her?
@itsmedammit Nope ~
As long as both people respect the views, no problem.
Depends. If you mean a staunch Christian, then NO. If someone who is spiritual and sort of follows Buddhism, then that's OK.