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This tells a lot about someone's character and if they are worth your time.

mistymoon77 9 July 2
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Even through a life that is situational and consistently busy, you will always have time for someone you care about, no matter when that may be. If you can't make the time, someone else inevitably will.

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Works both ways...time is the only thing that matters in a relationship. If either person can't find enough things will wither and die

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That’s very simplistic. What if you are doing something very important for a friend, for example, are you supposed to abandon that to ‘make time’ for someone else? Of course not. You’d expect the other person would understand.

I really don’t like soppy stuff like this.

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Sort of reminds me of something I once told my daughter when she called me at 1 AM when she was a teenager. She was spending the night with one of her friends and she called to ask me something. (Non emergency) She knew that I had to get up at 4:30. That was pretty much every morning, so she knew my schedule. I told her "call anytime, I'm awake 24 hours a day".

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Setting the bar about as as it can go, IMO.......

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Seems selfish to me.
While I agree with the sentiment, to always be there for the ones I love
That does not mean I will be able to just drop all the concerns and obligations of my life in order to support some aspect of anothers.

To expect that people will "ALWAYS" make time for you
Is to discount their personal obligations to both themselves, and their loved ones besides you, to make YOU of the utmost import above all others.
If you adopt this as an axiom you will inevitably (and I think repeatedly) be disappointed with your fellow humans.
They may desire to make time for you, but be unable to because they are making time for someone in more desperate need of which you are utterly unaware, and this axiom makes you place yourself above such a person, with zero knowledge of that situation.

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i don't know about that... let's say - you have a job that is due at 9am. you are still working at 12am and your g/f comes in and wants you THEN. you have 2hrs to complete. do you stop and postpone your work until you are finished....or do you say hold on for a couple hours?

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Yup, kind of like that...

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This meme is kinda ablist.

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I love that someone added "psychobabble" as a tag. So many memes seem good at first glance, but really don't hold up in a practical world.

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I don't fully agree. You be there when it really counts, and I do agree on the lies/excuses/promises.

A true friend will call you on your bullshit; but stand with you when it really counts.

The real reason for this sentiment is that some people are flaky and can't commit or say no...they just string you along. Or they are actively manipulating you for their own benefit.

Avoid those kinds.

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I agree with this statement as a goal but I would add the word "try" in there.

Much as I want to "be there" for a birthday or some other special event, in all practicality, sometimes things come up where I have to make a choice, work or sacrifice my livelihood, health, etc., so promises need to be postponed or adapted to something almost as good. This is where sometimes the expectations of me get to be more than I can handle, so I have to ask for understanding from my loved ones.

Also, there are cases where a loved one is particularly needy, and wants me to spend more time than I have with them. I may love them, but have to put boundaries. So, it's a nice meme, and something to try to do, but it might be too much pressure to deliver all the time. I do agree with the "no lies" bit though!

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I have seen this statement before, and always think that it doesn’t take into account the possibility that your friend may be suffering from depression. Sometimes, people who care, have no ability to reach out. Some are just treading water and all of their energy is spent in trying to stay afloat.

LB67 Level 7 July 2, 2018
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I'm feeling a little contrarywise today, so can I be indulged for being a little ... um, negative. No criticism of you mistymoon, darling - just using your post as an excuse.

Maybe I am channeling my inner Bill Burr. I watched a few of his gigs the other night. Always provocative, if not always diplomatic 🙂

But, is anyone else sick of these "perfect person memes" ?

"A perfect friend is this , that the other .... "

Who the fuck has perfect friends ? Speaking for myself, I have hard trouble just making good friends, and the few people who talk to me are far from perfect.

Last night I was talking to a guy about another guy, who had just passed away from Cancer.

I'll call the deceased guy Adrian, who had a succesfull little business selling machinery with his business and probably personal partner, Gary.
Anyway, this guy suggested to Gary ( a few weeks ago) that they should organise a "standing wake", that is a funeral before Adrian was actually dead from the cancer.

Gary looked a bit shocked - because Adrian was well known for being a bit of an argumentative sod around town, or as it was expressed at his wake "Someone who would give you advice whether you wanted it or not".

Gary had assumed that everyone hated Adrian's guts, and had to re-assured that Adrian was actually a valued pillar of the community. The turnout at the "standing wake" was exceptional.

So when I see people posting cute little "a true friend is this ... and get rid of the ones that do ..." my hackles start to rise. The day ANYONE has a well behaved, reliable, perfectly performing "friend" will be a f'ing MIRACLE ! Anyway .. jus' saying ......... ( in a Bill Burr voice )

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I guess, if you are a narcissist, sure..? sometimes it isnt about you.

When someone really matters to you, you give them the time they need, until you can't.

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Yup. If you ever find yourself making excuses for someone's lack of interest in you, time to move on. NOW.

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When you know that is there, it is very comforting.

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