So I haven't made a post yet but today seen a church sign and felt I needed to. It was a church sign that simply offered addiction counseling. I'm not here to criticise any religion because I do think that most religious folks have wonderful intentions. However in the past year as I have tried to deal with my own personal issues, I sought some counseling to help me deal with a drug addicted family member. It was helpful and I was told that I was already on the right track by having definite boundaries. But there was a religious overtone and the counselor wanted to pray with me. I indulged him for several reasons not the least of which was to just not have "the" discussion. Not everyone is ready to know that some folks do not believe in God. But back to my main topic, I found myself so wishing for counseling that was not religious based as well as many other things in life. I think it would be interesting to know how many other folks feel the same and at some point I think we owe it to future generations of non-believers to start organizing non religious based.... life! I think we also should start an organization that furthers education in our beliefs (without anger) and teaches people that you can have compassion, kindness, generosity, respect and morals without believing in God. Any thoughts or information on the subject?
A professional counselor, not using a 12-step program, would be the one to seek out in my opinion. If I recall, the very first step of the 12 is the "higher power" one. That's essentially admitting a person has no control over themselves and asking an outside, fictional being to run things. As an atheist, I have real issues with that. Behavioral counseling would be the way to go.
Please consider that individual councelors, the ones you have to pay, like a doctor or other professional, may very well offer what you are looking for. When you use community-based councellors, the funding comes from other sources, churches, non-profit organizations, etc. Always follow the money! It is cool to ask: "who funds this service" when you are not paying for it. That will give you a hint.
There are evidence-based counseling programs available. A therapist or counselor should be able to direct you to one if you request it. I went to a counselor a long time ago and they and their suggestions were deeply religious. I politely explained I wasn’t and I’d feel more comfortable with a more secular counselor, they were very understanding and got me in touch with someone much less religious.
Not living in USA it seems a really strange idea that counseling is religion-based. A concept that is totally alien in England or Australia. Religion can frequently, along with family dynamic, be at the root of the problem, therefore no room to move. Difficult if there are no non-most-probably-Christian groups in your area.
As addictions go, religion is probably the least harmful (to the addict that is) of them. It beats substance and other compulsive substitutes in that it isn't quite as self-destructive and might facilitate long enough life to eventually become free of all of them, including religion. A crutch is a similar example.
Religions love addicts also because the 'trade' benefits them. Successful or not, at least some of the addict's substance money goes to new pushers and grateful families kick-in too. It's a win:win for awhile at least.
I understand what you mean in that many groups and counseling sessions for help in combating drug addicted people or their families are faith-based. It's been my experience that many individuals, even those not addicted to substances but who are depressed or lonely, find comfort if they are able to look to a "higher power", and believe that there is something or someone greater than themselves who will provide them with an unseen helping hand to raise them from their despair.
For those of us who are Agnostic, or Atheist, or otherwise secular or non-believers, this line of logic or what ever you would want to call it does not seem to fit for us. Perhaps there's something in the "awkward situations group that might help, but speaking with a private or individual counselor and explaining your feelings might be the way to go. I also see some good advice already posted.
Not sure of your work situation, but when I was working, My company had an Employee Assistance Program that provided free help for a number of services - everything from attorney referrals for closings, wills, etc, to counseling for you or family members, to travel agents and a number of other things. Maybe yours does too. Also the State I live in has a free information line that provides some of those same things.
Best of luck!