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I Probably shouldn’t be posting this but I’m having a little bit of an issue. I’m feeling alone and wondering why my profile doesn’t seem to be attracting anyone. I’m not talking about this profile I’m talking about the dating sites I’m on. All my life I Never thought I was attractive but that was because I had no self-confidence. As I grew older I became more self-confident and saw that I was an attractive woman. But since my boyfriend of 16 years kick me to the curb for my best friend who was eight years younger and very pretty and had a lot of money I have not been very confident. I’ve been through three or four relationships that were very Toxic. I’ve been searching for someone since 2007 and it’s been quite a struggle. I don’t know what it is in my profile that causes people to overlook me or not reach out to me. Physically I think I look pretty good for 60 but nothings happening and I’m getting really depressed. can anyone give me some advice?

hipchick57 7 July 5
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Please don't take this comment negatively. It comes from the heart. Maybe if you stop trying so hard to find somebody, the right person will appear. If you are judging every man you meet as a possible partner, they will feel this and run for the hills. Enjoy the journey, enjoy the friendships, that is the best basis for building something lasting.

Jandii Level 4 July 19, 2018

I was having a bad day when I wrote this. Updated all my profiles and am doing great!

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When one door closes another shall open! Don't let the world get you down, just smile and let it happen! I'm sure right around you are loving caring people who have just been waiting for you to become available, now all you have to do is get out there smile and keep a positive attitude. ( this will help you project a Ora of enchantment and lead to that other door)...

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Just keep fishing. You are very attractive and seem to have your head on straight. I was lucky. Before the ink was dry on my divorce papers I found my soulmate, at 57. Just get out and mingle more. I know easier said than done. Good luck! Travel too. I know some folks that would probably like to accompany you to dinner, here in Texas.

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This is a duplicate of the previous post, so I will just say what I did on it. Relax and enjoy life and it could happen when you least expect it!

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You are a beautiful woman. Your pictures are great. I suggest you caption your photos with the date and location, to make them more interesting and clear.

Nobody wants to date a negative person. Please delete everything negative, including:

"At this age, the biography can get pretty long."
"I have attracted many damaged people."
"Finally realizing it's not my job to heal everyone l meet at my expense.
"I'm an only child and have learned loneliness does not come from being alone, but from being surrounded by people who can't understand me. A deep feeling of isolation comes when I realized that even the person sitting right next to me is unreachable.":
"I am a young soul in an old (?) body, although I don't think I look too bad for my age! Most people my age wouldn't have a clue who the songs on my playlist are sung by."
" I'm not too creative"
"I've been living in Pensacola for 10 months and I think it will be my final home, but I will always have a gypsy soul." This gives people pause.

Your profile is an advertisement to help you meet the kind of man you want to date. The best profiles are well written, upbeat and interesting, with a dash of humor. Your first paragraph should be short and upbeat, and say something positive about you.

Internet dating is a written, visual medium. Correct spelling and grammar are important because it shows you care about details. Write in short paragraphs. Nobody wants to read a wall of words. Also it's spelled "liberal."

Describe your best characteristics and strengths, activities you enjoy, and what you are looking for in a relationship. Talk a little about the type of man you want to meet using personality traits.

Tell a few short, funny stories about yourself that show your personality and sense of humor. Avoid anything negative. Nobody wants to date a negative person.

Describe activities you enjoy and would enjoy doing with a man.

You’re so in tune.. great advice.

@Tomas
Thank you.

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Dating sites aren't the best way to meet someone. Try putting yourself out into things and organizations, there are a lot of places for seniors to mingle. Do volunteer work, join a mixed bowling league, check out senior centers, go to lounges that play live 60' and 70's music. I hope I gave you some ideas.

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hay i sent you a message 🙂

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There's absolutely nothing wrong with you and you don't look your age! At the end of the day dating websites aren't a magic solution to anything, you need a hell of a lot if patience and a very skin and don't forget theyre a poor substitute for meeting people the old fashioned way unfortunately. I personally know they're not the place to go when you're feeling depressed.

Salo Level 7 July 6, 2018
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Nothing wrong with you. Its them. Keep looking, you'll find someone.

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