Ideas for good first dates?
Invite her to a quiet cafe' for lunch. If all goes well, ask her to go for a walk with you in a park or along a riverfront. It's easy to talk when you're enjoying nature.
At a table, sitting across from each other feels like a job interview. I take a corner position, so we're not staring at each other like gunslingers.
Don't you know what you like to do? Invite her to do what you enjoy and know something about.
Ever hear the expression who wears the pants in your family. The second you ask her out on a date the negotiations begin. Giving her the choice of where and when to date is handing her the pants.
Let's say you know a lot about Chinese jade and you invite her to an exhibit but she says, wouldn't a nice long walk on a beach be better?
You didn't hear it but she just told you a big resounding NO. If you change your mind and go with her to the beach you just lost all control of where this relationship is going.
Women are constantly negotiating and manipulating for power, to wear the pants in the family. Telling a woman no is a good thing. Keep your self respect or you'll be the one sleeping on the couch.
Whatever you decide, just relax and be yourself, smile if you're having a good time, don't be distracted with your phone and be attentive to what she's talking about, responding with "mhm" every now and then to let her know you're listening. =) Good luck!
That's a pretty large set of undefined variables unless this is a very broad general question.
Browsing record stores, book stores, comic shops, etc. is a good way to find common interests, but involves a lot of walking and can get expensive. If you're the outdoorsy type, hikes and greenways and biking or beach stuff works depending on what's available.
Live music isn't a bad choice but requires extra activities or diminishes opportunity for conversation and since the point of a first date is getting acquainted with the other person, that's sort of counter-intuitive unless your goal is to acquaint yourself with the other person's alcohol tolerance.
And it's possible that a multiple event oriented date might be a good idea: if your first idea doesn't go over so well, there's still two or three other opportunities to turn it around. Meet somewhere for coffee in an area where you know there are two or three different kinds of activities. Come prepared with options: coffee here or drinks there? Art museum or random live performers in the park? Or the theatre is showing this play or we could just go sit on a bench and watch the people go about their lives. Go watch the sunset from the top of a parking garage or go stargazing somewhere there isn't a lot of light pollution(okay this one might want to wait until the fourth or fifth date when an invitation to a secluded area is less...threatening-sounding at face value.)