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Would you object if your 30 year old son came to you and said that he had just become a missionary to Africa by signing up with the Soldiers For Christ (a fictional brand for illustration I hope!)

By Geoffrey51
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Since I lost the big V card 19 years ago, the fact my son invented time travel would be more impressive than him becoming a missionary.

Meh, his call and hopefully I'd done enough to teach him critical thinking and questioning it's not a totally harebrained scheme.

It's funny how many people who used to say my devotion and piety inspired them became atheists later. I wonder if it's contagious.

educatedredneck Level 7 July 16, 2018
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At thirty, that's their business. They would be an adult capable of making their own choices. I would be proud, because even though I may not agree with the ideology, it would be obvious that he has good intentions. I would also be excited that my child had the opportunity to travel to New places and learn about new cultures.

blakeandrew Level 2 July 13, 2018
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I would be profoundly sad and pity him for such a choice.

Object? Not really, it's his life and if he wishes to enter a delusional world of fantasy over facts, that is his choice. He may or may not recover from imaginary back to reality but life is terribly short and if he gathers a superior sense of holy servitude to an invisible sky daddy, for him, at this time, - - - if that's what he wants so be it.

Personally, I have a great deal of disdain for missionaries as they generally promote more societal damage then good.

Sorry for you loss.

NoMagicCookie Level 7 July 13, 2018
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First, his choice. Second. I personally got out of the act of analyzing/debating what religions believe. Its exhausting. My point is. If your son is doing positive things to legitimately help people thats great. To me beliefs and intentions are not indicators of quality. Its the actions of such persons. Trust me there are plenty of crabby free thinkers out there that can be even worse people 😬

Kepler-452b Level 2 July 12, 2018
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Not object at all. My eldest sing in Church on a Chorus every Sunday. My Children were Given to the World and to Life. I don't own them. It is their life just like my life was mine and not of my parents. I never been that Delusional!!!!

GipsyOfNewSpain Level 8 July 12, 2018
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I would gently express my concern and support his decision. I would throw up later.

DavidLaDeau Level 7 July 12, 2018
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He's 30 yrs of age. His decision, not yours. 😊

SimonCyrene Level 6 July 12, 2018
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A parent's obligation to concern themselves with the welfare of their children does not end at 18. You're absolutely right, it is that person's decision to undertake whatever actions they see fit, and at that age it is also part of a parent's job to know where the boundary between concern and control lies, but it's not out of bounds to at least communicate concerns about the motivations, rationale, and safety issues involved in their child's choice.

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@geist171 you'd make a fun parent πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

@SimonCyrene my girlfriend's kids seem to think so.

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Make them read Chinua Achebe's 'Things Fall Apart.'

geist171 Level 6 July 12, 2018
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I don’t think parents have a right to β€œobject” to a grown adult child’s decisions. You can be disappointed but they are able to make their own choices and explore their own beliefs at 30

PDF Level 4 July 12, 2018
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And of course ..... it is not a fictional brand:
[phumc.net]

MrLizard Level 8 July 12, 2018
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uhhhh! I suppose there had to be!

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No but I would be so disappointed.

kltuckmn Level 6 July 12, 2018
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I would ask what exactly the Soldiers for Christ are doing in Africa...
I've been told that some types of missionaries are doing real good humanitarian work in these countries, like medical care and education..., in addition to their traditional business (trying to convert those folks...)

Matias Level 7 July 12, 2018
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I'd probably be so astounded I had a 30 year-old son that his choice of career would be a long way from my mind.

Gareth Level 7 July 12, 2018
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Me too!

yup, I wasn't even sexually active at 15!

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No I would not
My sons are free to make own choices

Morganfreeman Level 7 July 12, 2018
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To be honest, I would encourage him to do so. I say this because doing things to help others is a good cause.
Myself, I volunteer at a homeless shelter. It's called Catholic Charities, so obviously it's a church run organization. But so what, Helping people is helping people.
And you never know. Just being around starving, suffering people in Africa, might just give him the push him into thinking twice about a 'Just' God.

TristanNuvo Level 7 July 12, 2018
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His decision. I'd wish him well and do my best to let him know what he's getting into.

Some places don't take as well to missionaries as others.

ronin73 Level 7 July 12, 2018
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Yes. Religion is a lot like a penis. I'm happy that you are so proud of yours, but if you start forcing it upon others, we gonna have a problem.

KC1959 Level 4 July 12, 2018
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True, religion also embarrasses you by making itself obvious at inopportune moments.

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I absolutely would!
I'd also actively encourage him to GET away from that cult.
Perhaps to the point of deprogramming.

KKGator Level 9 July 12, 2018
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