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Why Are You Single? AsapSCIENCE

By phxbillcee
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I just don't feel acceptable as a person, and I don't feel like anyone should have to put up with all my garbage.
Having said that, I was abused as a child, and I know it has messed me up in ways that can't be healed.
I really enjoy sex and intimacy, but I think some people are so broken that they should not have intimacy with anyone, as it just leads to an overwhelming stress and heartache for all involved.

DoktaVolta Level 3 July 15, 2018
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I'm very independent and outspoken. I've been told I'm off-putting. (sounds like bad gold term). I make friends the easiest in groups with repeated contact and opportunity for discussions. I've been married twice.

SamanthaAustin Level 3 July 14, 2018
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Lost wife 10 months go to cancer,after 27 years of marriage,taking things slow,afraid to commit as I hear horror stories,so,I'll fall back on my old bachelor survival tactics,I suppose.

Mike1947 Level 6 July 14, 2018
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I've been told that I'm still single because I'm terrible at flirtation: whenever I feel attracted to some guy I typically flame out because I have literally no idea how to talk to him. Flirting behavior seems fake and disingenuous, anyway. I wonder if this is a G- allele thing or an autistic spectrum thing?

Maiasaura Level 6 July 14, 2018
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I didn't watch the video, but I am single because I choose to be single.

Gwendolyn2018 Level 7 July 13, 2018
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Because I'm unfit for human consumption.

maturin1919 Level 6 July 12, 2018
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I'm single because I'm an awkward introvert that never leaves home except to go to work. It's kinda hard to meet people if you don't interact with them.

Magic_Spork Level 3 July 12, 2018
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I'm single and always wondered why. I don't see me entering into any kind of relationship (as a friend or one that may evolve into something serious) soon. I always thought if it was ment to be, it woukd have happened, whrn I was in my early 20's.

countrylife Level 5 July 12, 2018
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I'm not.

bigpawbullets Level 8 July 12, 2018
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Oh my gawd!! I’m surrounded by GGs!

Jonado Level 7 July 12, 2018
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And l thought it was because l am a 70 year old musician without a lot of money and less hair.

Sticks48 Level 8 July 12, 2018
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Yes, that is why. And the 70s. And the 80s.

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That is great video.

Stacey48 Level 8 July 12, 2018
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Well... I was born Single... it is my Natural State since I was Born... Genius!!!!

GipsyOfNewSpain Level 8 July 12, 2018
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I can't find a woman to trust. I also left a relationship as a survivor of violent physical abuse. Relationships induce a state of terror inside me.

Tedster Level 3 July 12, 2018
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Yes,severe trust issues,if your former lover was raised in an abusive family,that is all she knows,breaking that cycle is difficult,many hours of therapy. It can continue for many generations.

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Widower,lost wife of 27 years to cancer,a good ,stable marriage, no drama,just peace and tranquility,hoping to find another woman with similar outlook on life.[agnostic.com]

Mike1947 Level 6 July 12, 2018
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I’m not looking for a woman, but everything else you described is me too.

@Jonado I'm 20 years older than you,at 71,many skills,very calm,seldom excitable.Humans should not live alone,I did for 16 years before marrying my wife,low paying jobs,held me back,first job in 1974 was $2.85 an hour,not much dating on that income.

@Jonado I've only been in Texas twice,the first was Air Force basic training in the late 60's,the second time,my late wife and I drove to McAllen to visit and stay with her sister for almost 6 months time,a two day trip in 2014.

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Here I thought I was just an asshole.

mattersauce Level 6 July 12, 2018
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Nah..

Charlene Level 8 July 12, 2018
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This is regarding co-dependency vs interdependency. "Attachment style" is another way to look at this, I suppose, but why reinvent the wheel?

There are books by Harville Hendrix's which are also useful TOOLS. There is more than one. Here is something to get one started IF your interest is in studying the nature of attachment, HOW AND WHY we choose our mates... [audible.com]

LetzGetReal Level 7 July 12, 2018
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I know a lady who at the age of 25 y/o was asked by a friend's friend why she was single... her friend answered for her: "Because she is ugly; she has always been ugly."

I will never forget the "ocean" in her eyes.

@DUCHESSA That is really cruel.

@LetzGetReal Indeed...and it was the "general thinking" about this lady in the hood. She was so sweet and nice and she married a guy who idolized her. She was 38 y/o when she married. She never forgot what people used to say about her though.

@LetzGetReal ha that doesn’t surprise me, I think she blocked me when I said something similar about her

@LetzGetReal
Agree. That’s cruel.

@Jonado To insult to that depth,it cuts to the bottom of a persons soul,making them feel worthless,it make we wonder,the person who said that,has no compassion? Maybe was abused and is now lashing out? I would hate to be married to that person, or have them as a relative...

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