Why Are You Single? AsapSCIENCE
I just don't feel acceptable as a person, and I don't feel like anyone should have to put up with all my garbage.
Having said that, I was abused as a child, and I know it has messed me up in ways that can't be healed.
I really enjoy sex and intimacy, but I think some people are so broken that they should not have intimacy with anyone, as it just leads to an overwhelming stress and heartache for all involved.
I've been told that I'm still single because I'm terrible at flirtation: whenever I feel attracted to some guy I typically flame out because I have literally no idea how to talk to him. Flirting behavior seems fake and disingenuous, anyway. I wonder if this is a G- allele thing or an autistic spectrum thing?
I'm single and always wondered why. I don't see me entering into any kind of relationship (as a friend or one that may evolve into something serious) soon. I always thought if it was ment to be, it woukd have happened, whrn I was in my early 20's.
This is regarding co-dependency vs interdependency. "Attachment style" is another way to look at this, I suppose, but why reinvent the wheel?
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