For those of you who live in areas of sparse to non-existent available dates a question. Have you tried any distance relationships. How far away and how long did it work?
Every relationship I've been in since moving the South, which includes one marriage, has been long distance. The shortest commute I've had is one with someone in a city an hour away. I haven't dated anyone where I couldn't drive more than about 4 hours to see her, which made it possible for me to drive where she lived most weekends. They can work but they pose obstacles, the biggest of which is probably having limited opportunities to see each other. I always worry, especially in early stages of these relationships, if we're seeing the real version of ourselves and not a "vacation-like" version of ourselves. It seems much easier to get along when one or both is on a vacation of sorts. Communication is key and at least an awareness of this issue as well.
I've been in LDRs. Never again. I'm too old for that. The point of being a couple is doing things together, and if we can't I no longer see the point.
When I was younger and the distance was a temporary issue with an end in sight it made sense. Open ended LDRs don't work for me. All the issues of the relationship with few of the benefits.
Funny, a few women on this site wanted to date me, from 100s or 1000s miles away.
I asked them, are they independentally wealthy, because I am not. Along with lots of time on my hands for travel, flying and taxis. I am always open for Coffee if they visit Toronto. Love a woman company, still waiting anyone.
Across the state for me (not sure about the exact mileage). 4 years on and off, until she finally decided she no longer cared about me and started taking birth control for her new guy.
That really destroyed my trust in women because my previous relationship was an abusive mess.
It only works if it's temporary. One or both people eventually will have to move. I know a couple that did that. He was in Texas, she was somewhere near the Great Lakes. They moved together to the Pacific Northwest. Never been happier. It would have to take someone pretty special for me to consider a LDR.
What I was thinking . Is just how attractive women are today. It seems like there is something instinctual about being beautiful. I know this with women of childbearing age is to find the best mate, but even older women find themselves trying to be as attractive as possible. I wonder if its always been this way. Primates and early man ,I wonder if this was the way things were. In gorilla groups one male has all the females. I wonder if thats how it was with early man. I would like to know how these society dealt with who gets to mate. Anybody have any ideas.
My last one was a distance relationship for a year. She in Dallass Texass and I in Seattle. After the year we got married and it lasted 16 wonderful years until she died of a brain tumor. I was in my 50's and she in her late 40's. They can work if the couple have a high enough goal.