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For those of you who live in areas of sparse to non-existent available dates a question. Have you tried any distance relationships. How far away and how long did it work?

By KateZilla7
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Across the state for me (not sure about the exact mileage). 4 years on and off, until she finally decided she no longer cared about me and started taking birth control for her new guy.

That really destroyed my trust in women because my previous relationship was an abusive mess.

BlackSG24 Level 4 July 23, 2018

Yeah, no.. Not interested in a LDR. I need to be close to the one I love, to touch, to see them, to breathe them in. Then go about my day, knowing I'll be able to be with them again in close proximity real soon.

Aussie64 Level 5 July 12, 2018

It only works if it's temporary. One or both people eventually will have to move. I know a couple that did that. He was in Texas, she was somewhere near the Great Lakes. They moved together to the Pacific Northwest. Never been happier. It would have to take someone pretty special for me to consider a LDR.

bleurowz Level 8 July 12, 2018

What I was thinking . Is just how attractive women are today. It seems like there is something instinctual about being beautiful. I know this with women of childbearing age is to find the best mate, but even older women find themselves trying to be as attractive as possible. I wonder if its always been this way. Primates and early man ,I wonder if this was the way things were. In gorilla groups one male has all the females. I wonder if thats how it was with early man. I would like to know how these society dealt with who gets to mate. Anybody have any ideas.


My last one was a distance relationship for a year. She in Dallass Texass and I in Seattle. After the year we got married and it lasted 16 wonderful years until she died of a brain tumor. I was in my 50's and she in her late 40's. They can work if the couple have a high enough goal.

JackPedigo Level 8 July 12, 2018

Tried it, got my heart broken. But then it was 1800 miles. I would consider a shorter LDR if moving to my area is an option. If you do LDR, proceed with caution. Moving sucks.


I tried. It did not work.

JanGarber Level 7 July 12, 2018

Similarity , familiarity and most
critically , proximity !


Funny, a few women on this site wanted to date me, from 100s or 1000s miles away.
I asked them, are they independentally wealthy, because I am not. Along with lots of time on my hands for travel, flying and taxis. I am always open for Coffee if they visit Toronto. Love a woman company, still waiting anyone.


Every relationship I've been in since moving the South, which includes one marriage, has been long distance. The shortest commute I've had is one with someone in a city an hour away. I haven't dated anyone where I couldn't drive more than about 4 hours to see her, which made it possible for me to drive where she lived most weekends. They can work but they pose obstacles, the biggest of which is probably having limited opportunities to see each other. I always worry, especially in early stages of these relationships, if we're seeing the real version of ourselves and not a "vacation-like" version of ourselves. It seems much easier to get along when one or both is on a vacation of sorts. Communication is key and at least an awareness of this issue as well.

shayne69 Level 6 July 12, 2018

Tried it. Failed miserably. Extremely reluctant to ever try it again.

KKGator Level 9 July 12, 2018

I've done it. Roughly 3500 miles.

Secretguy Level 7 July 12, 2018

I’d be willing to do it. My schedule is pretty predictable and I enjoy driving. Being in the military, I’ll most likely have to go long distance anyways.

RandyMoose Level 7 July 12, 2018

One of 90 miles....One of 200 miles. Both failed because of distance.

Sticks48 Level 9 July 12, 2018

I did and it was a wonderful experience.

@KateZilla 3 years. It was definitely worth it.


Off and on since high school actually. Some of them never made it as far as in-person meetings, the longest lasted around 2 years or so. Distance is difficult sometimes, but if everyone involved is willing to make it a priority, it can totally work.

geist171 Level 6 July 12, 2018

I won't do long distance because a relationship requires face to face interaction for me to really be able to connect completely.

jorj Level 8 July 12, 2018
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