Ok, it's been a while since I've reached out to you all. I've always gotten great advise and encouragement from you. So....I'm becoming emotionally involved with a man I've had a great physical relationship with. Problem is he is a Christian who believes anyone who doesn't follow the bible is going to hell including me. Somehow not him even though he is having sex with me. Whatever....I figured that would be his problem to work out not mine. We mostly don't talk about it. I'm just struggling with how can I contemplate continuing a relationship with a person with such different beliefs then me. I don't believe in hell so why should I be bothered? I'm confused. Am I being unfaithful to my own convictions? Can I be ok with this kind otherwise loving man who is so blatantly hypocritical in his own mind?
You will never meet anyone who believes anything 100% the same as you.....60-70% is even rare, IMO. Can you both be civil, agree to disagree, or avoid the subject Entirely?
Because if he tries to convert you, the sex will go bad quick. But since he is "sinning" maybe there is hope for him?
It depends if you would be happy in the long term with a man who is incapable of truly logical thinking. If the attraction, respect, compassion and sex is great and those qualities outweigh the logic aspect, then go for it.
The respect is wavering. I don't see it getting any better. On both sides. So There is my answer!
Focus on your commonalities. Religion could become a wedge that divides you eventually. But why do you look for ways to sabotage what you enjoy now? Surrender to your sexual desires and merge into each other. It becomes more difficult to find men still able to perform as we age and the cougar thing is only fun for a short while. So, fill 'er up!!
I agree but somehow I'm developing those damn feelings!
I used to think I could look the other way about this sort of thing, but I've come to realize it eats away at you. If not you, then them. It's possible it could work out though. Sounds like you have some issues with it, I would maybe move on from this one, or just enjoy it for a little while longer until you know for sure when the right time to step out is. Either way, good luck!
You seem to be wracked with cognitive dissonance. He does as well. I'd have to ask if you are able to define your own convictions. If you feel manipulated, then I believe you have your answer.
Tell him you're pregnant and see what his reaction is. It will make him see how serious the situation is that he's in and come forth with some truth concerning your relationship. An open sexual relationship with a closed mind is not good for the future. Decide if he's a "toy" or not and move on with your life.
Oh my goodness. I'm 54. Lol. He would consider it a miracle! Keep me in a cave and wait for the second coming!?
@Barbarabkind Brigette Nielsen just did it. So could you.
Focus on your commonalities. Religion could become a wedge that divides you eventually. But why do you look for ways to sabotage what you enjoy now? Surrender to your sexual desires and merge into each other. It becomes more difficult to find men still able to perform as we age and the cougar thing is only fun for a short while. So, fill 'er up!!
Whatever you decide. Do not live with him. You don't want to lose yourself.
That will never happen! I'm enjoying my new selfish life.?
You will never meet anyone who believes anything 100% the same as you.....60-70% is even rare, IMO. Can you both be civil, agree to disagree, or avoid the subject Entirely?
Because if he tries to convert you, the sex will go bad quick. But since he is "sinning" maybe there is hope for him?
He's not only hypocritical in his own mind but in body and soul. If the sex is good not a total waste of time I guess but it would have to be very good.
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I let people believe what the will. Just see where it goes.
I had been on and off involved somehow with a christian scientist for 16 years, I am this comet of indulgement that continues visit her planet... I never asked her leave her faith for me... never been that selfish... So...
I agree and took your approach. But he seems to be starting to share his hell and brimstone Sunday services more and more. I would prefer to stay quiet about my believes out of respect for his. It's becoming irritating and not worth it.
@Barbarabkind I know your feelings, I was told the night before I left for Vegas how my presence gets her out of her character... a beer here, a miss of service there, late nights, spurge money, etc and you got your answer... Not Worth It!