So very true, It's painful to give and not get back. I choose to look at the good things that person/those people brought to my life. Many have moved into and out of my life, and I appreciate them all. The lesson you've learned is making you a better person. It seems you have very much to offer---to the right person. Wishing you the best.

I would like to thank you all. I appreciate your wisdom and words of advice, at least I know I'm not alone now.

The reality is that people have their own struggles and at least here in the US it has been my experience that most people just don't know how to be present for others when they are suffering. They want to fix it, and can't, and then they want YOU to fix it, so they're not uncomfortable.

You are right, you do find out who your real, deeply committed friends are when you're going through difficult times. And sometimes the answer is: none of them.

And it isn't just limited to that, either. I had what I thought was a pretty close friend that I did a lot of things with, and that evaporated when I moved away. Zero effort on his part. I've dropped in when visiting back in the old 'hood and he's been distracted and aloof. Since then I've matched his level of effort and now he's offended at that.

This stuff does get old and it is discouraging but the good news is that I'm increasingly comfortable in my own skin and find my company sufficient anymore. I think this is a critical skill as you age. My surviving two brothers are 10 and 15 years older than me, respectively, my parents are gone, a lot of my family is still religious, my surviving child lives hundreds of miles away and I get nothing out of that relationship or the grandchildren unless it's effort I put forth unilaterally. Put that all together and it's clear I'm not going to die surrounded by adoring, reminiscing, grateful family and friends. And that just has to be okay.

Been there, know how you feel. Take care of yourself first.

Yes, you’ve got it. Get through it, reassess ‘your friends,’ then streamline your existence

Life is indeed a roller coaster, that's not just a cliché.... Just hang on tight

i feel the same at times, i'm always available to help others. it seems to me that others never are. it maybe that we are not giving a chance to some people to get close.
i've recently found someone who i feel is there for me. i'm hopeful.
you'll find someone, or someones that will be there for you eventually.