well both parties involved share the expectations i think so either could start the process moving forward but agree with the comment about public places at 1st no matter who sets up initial meet up good luck

I would always recommend a public place for women upon their first face to face meeting. There are some goofy men out there.

Before my late wife and I dated,and later married,we talked for a week,two to three hours in the evening as we both worked,She had the flu and didn't want me to see her. Establishing a friendship first,mutual likes and dislikes. I must have impressed her, as we had 27 years, (26 good ones),before cancer took her away...

The only rule is... there are no rules
-Alex "Hitch" Hitchens

If it is somebody I already know, have been talking to, and it is still very early along the path, that would not be acceptable to me as a date night.

We teach people how to treat us ... all depends on what you want , or will tolerate.

No going to stranger's houses, or letting them know Where you live (and that includes home phone number) until you get to know them by meeting in public places, talking on the phone (buy a burner, $14.99 @walmart)
Unless you enjoy being the subject of a Criminal Minds episode! Ted Bundy was a good-looking attorney, and "a real charmer".................

Could be either. Between two grown ups about anything is fair game. I would prefer meeting away from my home first. But I’ve taken women flying first. And kayaking. Both put you alone and away with a stranger.

And the man planning a date without input from the other is a little out of my comfort zone.

What if he asks you to look at his cool set up in the basement??

No, I agree and you are using your better judgment. A first meeting should be mutually agreed upon and in a public place.

He might be a recluse....send a counter offer to go out somewhere

It has to be mutual. Either one can make the first move.

My wife asked me if I had cable so she could watch 9-11 news coverage (we lived in the same building). Later she brought over some homemade bread. The date part I initiated to move the relationship forward. It was the third step in the process.

Lunch or coffee or drinks (out) is appropriate.