So, after talking to my mother she believes my lack of belief or lack of of tolerance for the church. Makes me no better than church goers because I don't respect their beliefs? ? Idk I personally couldn't give a flying fuck about what you believe until those beliefs impede with human rights and the functioning of our society as if it's law.
I'm not clear on what you're saying. Your mother thinks your no better than church goers if you don't respect their beliefs? That makes no sense.
Sounds like the demand of many believers for automatic, un-earned respect and deference for their views, no matter what they are.
The real situation is you can respect the right of people to hold whatever views they wish, but you don't have to agree with or find those beliefs beneficial yourself.
As you suggest ... it's a matter of general indifference outside the group until they start attempting to control people outside their group.