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Please, women members, consider posting more. Most are by males. Most of them appear juvenile, superficial and obnoxious. It is really daunting to find posts worth the time to provide a comment. So many of the ones I see by men make it even more so.

There seems to be an attractive lack of strut in women's posts but alas, a lack of women's posts. 😟

Silver1wun 7 Aug 10
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I have gotten more careful about what I post since I joined, since most of it is either ignored, or incites the kind of responses I don't want, but I do appreciate the nudge. In your honor, I will put up a couple of things today.

Do your posts really incite the kind of responses you don't like? You should no blame yourself for what a contemptibly obnoxious person (jerk, in short) might respond to your posts, you probably a lot more normal responses that you like.

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I am at level 7.8. Since January I have made over 200 posts and over 1,700 comments. Granted, some people have more than me. Perhaps what you're seeing is quality over quantity. I'd rather see one interesting post than 100 bland ones, and I have no problem weeding through the bland ones to find it, because they're easy to pass over.

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I have posted a lot. I consider it a bit egotistical of me, to think people will care what I think/say. I do it anyway, because I have NPD and need validation ???

What women think and have to say has been, tragically, undervalued in our androcratic form of society; making it all the more important for women to be heard from and taken serously.

Can't happen if women are reticent because they don't consider their thoughts worthy or because it might sound challenging or 'not nice'.

@Silver1wun If you give specific positive feedback about good posts by women, such as "that is a great question" or "you described that very powerfully" or whatever happens to be true, you will be the one helping women feel heard, rather than blaming us

@LionMousePudding No blaming. Just an attempt to 'raise awareness'.. 🙂 Great suggestion! Love it! Wow! 🙂 Will do!

@Silver1wun You can start with mine ??????

@LionMousePudding You might have read this before.

@LionMousePudding Here's something better. Both shots from pages of one of my books. 'Female Erasure' edited by Ruth Barrett

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Since February 2018, I have written 48 posts. The first post generated nearly 50 comments. To my surprise, I have 95 followers.

Don't ask women to post more and in the next breath, insult our posts. Does "lack of strut" mean weakness or lack of confidence?

Why we Should Stop Telling Women to be More Confident

“To many women, confidence means self-assuredness. It means striding into a situation, head held high not out of arrogance, but preparedness,” behavioral expert Wendy Patrick, JD, PhD, said.

"While this may look similar to ways men manifest confidence, the way each gender achieves that posture can be very different," she explains. "Women often put a higher value on building relationships, empathizing, and kindness, in addition to being prepared, polite, and firm.

"Telling a woman to “be more confident” can invalidate traditional forms of female confidence while reinforcing the idea that only stereotypically male forms of confidence—like aggression and assertiveness—are the “right” way to be confident. In truth, both genders benefit from greater empathy."

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I don't consider 'strutting' to be indicative of confidence nor something positive at all. If anything, symbolically, it substitutes for genuine confidence. I've read and enjoyed many of your posts and contrary to your impression, agree with most of what you say.

@Silver1wun

Thank you for clarifying. Okay, I will soften the combative tone of my question.

I appreciate your kind words.

I don't have a know-it-all PhD to quote, but from what I have observed male confidence is like ... close your eyes and jump into the abyss, then open your eyes grab your cell phone and call your wife and ask her where did you leave your parachute.

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I’m a very superficial woman. If it takes too long to read or write, I loose interest

Maybe try re-evaluating the groups you are in?

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Irony alert.

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I disagree I see many many posts by women. Maybe they've all blocked you?

Salo Level 7 Aug 10, 2018
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I am a lover of language, particularly, colloquialisms. I am not familiar with term "attractive lack of strut". Could I get a definition please?

(My current favorite colloquialism is from an Australian friend who when asked if he were ready to go said, "well, I'm not here to fuck spiders".)

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There are probably less posts by women because we like to have something worth posting before we do so! A lot of the posts here are pretty repetitive and about US politics which a lot men in particular seem obsessed with. As a Brit. I find a bit of a disconnect sometimes between our cultures, but do my best to understand the Americanisms! Will try to post more in future will be my new motto!!

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Oh you would like my strut

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