Ok... I can't be the only one. Been out of circulation for a very long time. I don't think I would even know how to go on a "date". I was always a but awkward that way... I missed out on a lot of the socializing things most teens did back when I was one.
I have been out of the loop 25 years. Now I find myself a lot older and just as clueless. I'm not shy... Just ignorant. I can talk to criminals by morning and the Governor for lunch. ( I have actually done both in the same day for real) As a journalist, it was all in a days work. So... Gals, what is the first mistakes you wish us guys wouldn't make? Is it still ok to open the door for you? Should I not talk, only listen? I naturally avoid some topics, like religion... In public. What else should be avoided? What should always be INcluded? Helps us out. Some of us aren't horrible... Just clueless.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.If you are planning to date a similar age gal, just be yourself. If you are a gentleman then be yourself, and try to gauge if it's appreciated or scoffed at, and learn whether your date is a lady, a self sufficiant modern gal, or going to keep you guessing.
Allow a nice balance of conversation, not questioning her like an interview, and not talking about yourself incessantly, but letting a comfortable exchange of ideas flow from various topics. Listen and use humor and wit if you have it, but don't try if you don't.
However if you are not normally a gentleman, please let your date know right away by being yourself, bad manners and all, so it's not a rude awakening on the 3rd or 4th date when the real you emerges. Sure, be on your better behavior on the first date, but don't be so out of your normal behavior that it's a farce.
Treat her as an equal - whether she brags a bit - or doesn't share enough - be patient. She may be nervous and a bit rusty at dating too. Everyone has wonderful and possibly horrible qualities, but give her a chance to let her show you what they are in her own time.
Julie808
Level 8
Aug 16, 2018
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Oh, and don't talk about your previous relationship more than necessary. What is past is behind you, and part of you, but focus on what is in front of you presently. 
Thank you for the advice. I suppose some of it should be obvious. And maybe some of it was... I guess I'm nervous. For years, I never had to think about it. I was the full time custodial parent. So, dating was not even a thought. Then the baby, (Not mine, my daughters, though it felt like she was mine) So again, I was too busy to worry about it. I have no more excuses now. I ran out of them, just today! OK, maybe I'm being a bit facetious... I am often a smartass, which is facetious spelled correctly. That's just how I respond to the big world out there... I am not usually insecure. I know my strengths, and weaknesses. It's reassuring to be told what I think I knew. Getting up the nerve to be rejected, I think is the hardest part. And I have been, rejected already. I didn't like it. (Does anyone?) Even asking a lady out, it has been like a year ago. At least she didn't reach for her mace... Or call a cop. I suppose that's a good sign. Anyhow, Thanks again for the advice. It's good to hear from the 'other half' what to do and more importantly, what not to do.
Just take it easy and read some of the other posts..you'll get the hang of it.
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birdingnut
Level 8
Aug 15, 2018
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Fantastic advice. Why aren't you running the show here? If I am gonna chat, I gotta up my typing game. Or get a better keyboard. The kind you speak to... No, I'll get myself into trouble ten times faster. I'll keep trying. I must be doing something, I got to level 3 already. It must not take a lot to get. I don't see any difference... I'll figure it out. Thanks for being so patient with a newb...
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