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I meet someone new should i tell them right off the bat that i am not a believer in their religion or wait til they get to know me?

riverman1234 5 Aug 17
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i think you should get too know them a little so you can show them just because you don't believe youre not a bad person

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I tell them immediate. I'm too old for games. You have to be tactful and respectful though.

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You might wanna hold off for a little bit and get to know each other first. Rejecting someone based on one trait isn't right.

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I always say I am an Atheist. If the person gets all wrinkled up it means he/she has not brains and I run from brainless people

well that's true I wonder does that mean that we are smarter than they are or are we just using our brains

@riverman1234 Probably the later.

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" Nice to meet you, I'm a non-believer "

Well, maybe not the best opening line, but soon ...

As soon as a person says something like God will provide / knows his ways / was his decision... I tell them I don't believe in God. If they insist I tell to them "Please, do not come to me with your BS".

Why to waste intelligent time with ignorant people?

@DUCHESSA for real!

@MrChange Yes, for real...!!!

@DUCHESSA sorry maam that was not a question. I was simply agreeing with the statement above. Sorry for the confusion

@MrChange I KNOW IT WAS NOT A QUESTION...I was reinforcing my original post.

@DUCHESSA lol?. Cool.

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It should have been the second...or third thing you said to that person.

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If you are hitting it off otherwise, maybe drop some hints that you aren't religious and see if they adjust their conversation, or double down on religious talk. I've met people who assume I'm religious, so they purposely insert a lot of god talk to impress me. After a few hints or outright blurting out my atheism, it's funny how some people can attempt to see my point of view and may be closet atheists themselves! Ya never know!

well there are any atheists here that I know of but if I came out with it I would be persecuted and talked about real bad

@riverman1234 Maybe keep them guessing a bit until you can come right out and reveal yourself, then. I'm spoiled - I live in a fairly open minded region - of more "spiritual but not religious" folks. But even their "spiritual" is too much for me most of the time. I'm surprised how many atheists reveal themselves quietly to me, after I come right out and say so up front. I'm just more vocal and open than they are.

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When the first girl I genuinely loved found out that I was a nonbeliever, she dumped me. I have never forgotten my feelings for her.

I guess she didn't care for you.

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Not necessarily the very first time unless you feel like there's a connection but if you feel like the relationship is going anywhere I would definitely get any major issues discussed and out of the way before you allow yourself to develop deeper feelings

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I would have it on my profile; a new prospect's being agnostic, or indifferent to their own religion, would be a stipulation for my accepting dates at all.

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If you seem to have a lot in common, follow that path. Eventually, you will reach a moment in discussion where you will reveal some of your positions on religion and politics. The other person will also reveal their perspectives as well. Some people are more accepting than others. They will probably tell you whether they see this relationship developing further or not at that point. It's a gamble. But always be honest up front if asked.

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I make certain they know up front. I want there to be NO misunderstandings. I also cannot see myself in a serious relationship with someone who is what I term to be "superstitious".

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It wouldn’t be the opening gambit to the first conversation with someone you are meeting for the first time. If this is a possible romantic partner then I think quite early on in the relationship you should let them know your views on religion, if it is any other relationship, work or social, I don’t see any reason to mention your non belief at all.

thanks for your comment . I know somem if you tell them early on like on a dating site they will block you right off the bat. anyone that would do that is probably so close minded probably a good idea to tell them fairly early youre not convinced of a invisiable man in the sky

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