Fuck. I've started this post a half a dozen times.
I just went on a (strictly) dating site for the first time, and I'm already sick of it. Every profile looks the same, and the ones that show an ounce of creativity... It just feels like a line. I mean, it's all a stupid game, right? They even have the same photos; I'm on a boat! I'm at a stadium! I caught a fish! News flash: I need a reason to care.
I've never really dated before. I've always jumped in the deep end, with a couple of starter marriages in my early twenties, and then 17 years with my third. I don't know how it's done. Especially now, as a middle-aged single mom. And I guess I'm feeling a little bit disappointed and a little bit scared. Or maybe more than just a little bit of those things. And I just wanted to get that off my chest.
Thanks for listening, everybody. I'm not really looking for advice here. I'll figure it out. Maybe online dating just isn't my thing.
Dating sites are a joke imho. Better to just meet some one by happenstance. If you expect to meet the love of your life there, you're probably wrong. Yes, I'm sure it has happened in the past, but the commercials are the exception rather than the rule. For me, I meet women when I am not expecting anything, and is completely random.
I got married young and was married for 23 years, dated a little bit, and then went into another serious relationship.
I took about six months to myself to figure out what I wanted to do, and I'm just now on dating sites, and it is a sh*tshow.
I choose to look at it like I'm Jane Goodall observing mostly hairless apes grope around in the dark trying to find each other
Life is what you make of it, no better or no worse. These people who you think are posting the very same things on dating sites are simple trying to relate. They are relating in that we are all basically the same from the same mold, the human mold like it or not!
I am much too old to know anything about dating sites, and am barely able to function on the internet, so thank goodness I don’t need to navigate them! My advice would be to go and join some groups locally, doing some activity or hobby. An Art class or if you sing a choir, or whatever your particular tastes draw you towards. Make sure they include both male and female members of course!
I've never used a dating site other than this one (which very much isn't a dating site at all!) and I definitely feel it's not for me. Maybe I'm not alone among people who were born before the internet, but it just feels like a very unnatural way to try to find love.
The thing I can't figure out about women (no offense intended to anyone) is why people hit the button that says they "like" me or are "interested" in me, but then don't follow that up when I respond with a message or interest of my own. Are all those accidental? Some even have messages of their own. They couldn't all be fishing me, could they? I'm pretty good at spotting the signs...
Any guesses? Do men do the same thing to you?