Humanist/agnostic lesbian lady of a certain age here (61). My girlfriend recently broke up with me and of course much of the trouble between us probably stemmed from the fact that I am a non-believer, and although she attends a new-age progressive type church she was a little disturbed by my insistence that I can't say I BELIEVE in anything that can't be proven to be TRUE. She believes she will/has had multiple lives. As an intellectual exercise I find the idea of reincarnation interesting and appealing, but that does not mean I believe in it. Like-wise her reliance on astrology and tarot readings to guide her life decisions I found to be disturbing. I can't put any faith in a thing that is based on magical thinking. That includes theistic beings, virgin births, or some unknown universal force I could send good vibes to so that my hopes and wishes will be realized. Why can't people understand that a non-believer can be a spiritual person. By that I mean there are things I believe in ..strongly. I believe in love, beauty, the awesome wonder of nature and the inherent goodness in people that causes us to reach out to and help and support and nurture one another. I believe in truth, logic,compassion, empathy and reality. I believe in doing good for the sake of goodness, because as a sentient, social being it is my duty to my fellow beings, not as a way to attain eternal reward or avoid damnation. I'm finding it very difficult to meet someone (I live in the middle of the bible belt) who is not living under the influence of religious indoctrination. I was under its spell myself when I was younger and literally felt I'd been set free when I left the church behind. It took decades to get all the negative influence out of my head. As a result I was closeted and in denial most of my life. I won't compromise that freedom now.