Agnostic.com

33 4

Masturbation

Yeah...that got your attention didn't it? 😀

It is Sunday and I'm procrastinating mowing the grass so...

How often do you do it? Do you set the "mood" or just take care of business? (Really don't need/want "details" just a general question)

What do you call it? Pet name for it?

Were you raised to think it was wrong? If yes, were your parents religious?

Do you think it enhances your activities with a partner or distracts from?

Have you addressed the topic of them doing it with your kids?
If yes, how did you approach it.

Crimson67 8 Aug 26
Share

Enjoy being online again!

Welcome to the community of good people who base their values on evidence and appreciate civil discourse - the social network you will enjoy.

Create your free account

33 comments

Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.

8

Get out there & mow that lawn, you procrastinator!

6

I just take care of business. Being horny when you're single is just an annoyance. Ihaven't any pet names for it. My parents were religious but never talked about anything regarding sex. As to its effect on partnered sex, I don't know anymore. It's been too long.

4

Helps me fall asleep sometimes. It’s midnight here, I’m ready for bed now LOL...

4

I think I'm gonna start calling it "Releasing the Kraken!!!"...

4

Well, was it better than cutting grass ,?

3

I was raised such a good Presbyterian that no one ever talked about sex and, other than high school jokes about boys jacking off, I never knew girls could do it to themselves until I left for college.

LOL

It was a different time...only 3 TV channels, no internet, cell phones...etc.

While I don't consider myself repressed in the least with a partner (or by myself), I still suffer from having it ingrained in my head growing up that only "low class" people discuss such things in public....

I remember my mother telling me to "never share a bathroom" with your husband as women should always "keep the mystery". That was the EXTENT of her "talk" with me about the birds and the bees.

Fortunately, I could read and, after I left for college at 17, I read EVERYTHING in the human sexuality section of the college library.

3

Mmmmmmhhhhhh.... never thought about it. I discussed sex, condoms and pills with my two daughters since they were teens, so they would be informed and ready to understand the whats and what nots but it never occured to me to bring up the issue of masturbation. I guess it wasn't in my agenda since I don't consider it to cause any harm. Getting preagnat or catching a deadly disease was always my main concern, so I decided they needed to know. Worked out just fine.

2

Most days, at least once. Just take care of business.

No name for it.

Masterbation was not discussed in my house.

Enhances. But, also I just have a crazy schedule and finding a common time with a partner is difficult.

I am very sex positive with the kids. So, when it comes to masterbation the general line is "touching yourself can feel good, most people do it, it's a private activity (which means, keep it to the bedroom or bathroom and alone) and we wash our hands when we're done."

2

I was masurbating before I even knew what an orgasm was! I just knew it felt good to rub my dick when it was hard. Later, in my teens when I discovered orgasms, it became an almost daily thing! During the early years, it required no mental stimulation, it just felt good! Later, my mom’s romance books and even James Bond series supplied mental stimulation. In fact most anything mildly sexual could get things going. Sex Ed at my house was my dad giving me an age appropriate book on sex when I was around 11 or 12. You know the kind: a man and a woman fall in love, they get married, go to bed and the man put his penis in the woman’s vagina... It did teach me what balls did (sperm) which to that point all I knew was they were extremely painful if they were whacked in any way. And I found out that women had a whole different set of equipment rather than just missing pieces! We had played “Doctor” with girls, so I had some idea of what they looked like between the legs
Now, masturbation is just a release to avoid wet dreams and thanks to free porn, remind me of what I used to do. I just gave my stepson a handful of condoms (I do work with Planned Parenthood, so I had a good supply), since he and his girlfriend are getting ready to move into a physical relationship. With both my son and stepson, I tried to let them know there was no topic off limits, no judgement.

2

on average once a day, open with kids if asked. my parents were open with me too. its the only free fun I can have without bothering anyone. I don't see the big deal about sex as long as I'm not hurting anyone else.

2

I have not mowed the lawn in many years. Most of the places I have lived for the last 30+ years did not have lawns.

Oh, but we're not talking about lawns. Masturbation. A lot less than I used to. I'm not really keeping count, but these days it's mostly when I am having difficulty sleeping it can sometimes (not always) help to rub one out. Other than that it's a once in a while thing, mostly as a stress reliever.

But that was not always the case. I actually discovered it and started doing that when I was really young. And to my way too Catholic father it was like it was worse than committing murder. But sometimes after a really good "finish", I would actually have mild hallucinations. Always beautiful stuff. Colors, fields of flowers, that sort of thing. I don't know if that's normal, but I have heard others saying that they experienced something similar.

2

Pretty often...every couple days
The MOOD is usually the motivation
Jerkin the gerkin
My dad said everybody does

2

Usually before I get outta bed in the morning and before going to bed. Such a good start and wrap to the day, unless actual sex is happening then I can skip. Often partner can help or add or remain sleeping. Never really a problem. It's gonna happen and it's my bed so gotta be comfortable with it. Life is too short and it feels good and is much less harmful than most things in the same category.

2

Personal Maintenance.

2

I aim for three orgasms every Sunday. But, mostly, the weekdays benefit from Sunday not meeting its goal.

2

When the mood moves me.

We were raised in a Catholic household so sex was never discussed. I was living in Germany and my parents came for a visit. I took them to Munich and we had dinner in the famous Hof Brau Haus. Afterward, we were walking down a narrow street and I was talking with my mother and we noticed dad was missing. We retraced our steps and found him staring at a sex shop window. My mother went to him and took his arm and said, honey that's not for you!!

Yes, I think it can definitely enhance a relationship. It is normal for people to be out of sync. My late partner and I agreed to take this route in such times even if (and sometimes especially) the other was present.

1

Pretty much daily. I think at my age keeping both the brain and Mr Happy engaged in sex has helped me not need the little blue pill.

1

From this day forward i'm gonna call it " mowing the lawn" ?

That means shaving though. Now I feel like I know nothing about rubbing one out...

1

I do it whenever the mood strikes, which has become more often as the ugly divorce fades into past tense. As far as "mood" goes, a little music and/or aromatherapy adds a boost sometimes. I don't have a name for it because I usually don't discuss it, announce it, or reminisce about it. I was not raised to think masturbation is wrong. I think it would enhance activities with the right partner. I'd love to have a relationship where communication was comfortable enough to find out. As a single mom of sons, I didn't discuss masturbation with them at length, but indicated enough that they would understand that I considered it normal and none of my business if they engaged in it.

Deb57 Level 8 Aug 29, 2018
1

I do it whenever "it" alerts me that "it" needs some attention. Others have called it "Vader", "God", "pretty", and probably some other things I can't remember lol

I was never raised to think it was wrong. My parents were never really religious. My mother believes in God, and my father wasn't religious. He never talked about a God or lack thereof. His father was Agnostic though. Besides, the box of porn mags and VHS tapes would suggest some freakiness going on in the household when we were all younger lol

It can enhance activities with a partner. Especially when the partner doesn't think it's an insult instead of playing with them. By all means, if you see me playing with it, join in lol

I don't have kids, but that question can go a very completely different and disturbing way with interpretation lol

1

I prefer the automatic setting, but it runs in manual when needed.

1

So was this post what you did to procrastinate or... 😉

lerlo Level 8 Aug 26, 2018
1

I usually just do ‘it’ when I need to.
I’m never really in the mood for it but it has to be done or it’s a real mess when you finally do it
I like to call lt Doing the dirty
I was raised that I had to do it or the neighbors would complain.
My mom seemed to pray a lot that I would do it
I tend to get a lot more attention from my SO if I do it on a regular basis
I tried to get my kids to do it but they didn’t like it because they got all sweaty

Phin Level 6 Aug 26, 2018
1

Usually I do it at least once a day. No pet names for it. Sex was never discussed in relation to religion when I was a kid. My parents got divorced when I was 12, just about the time sex was of interest to me. I'm single, so it's my only sexual outlet. My dad left a lot of Playboy and other porn magazine in boxes in the garage, so summer time when I had to stay outside all day, I learned a lot. I have no kids so explaining sex isn't an issue for me.

1

So.. what if this just got me wondering about you "mowing the grass"? ?

@Crimson67 well I hope you find a more stimulating cutting experience in the future!

Write Comment
You can include a link to this post in your posts and comments by including the text q:164126
Agnostic does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any content. Read full disclaimer.