How I admire you! It takes a strong person to take in a teen-aged with problems, especially like the ones she has. I wish you success in giving her the love and support she will need.

Say, "it has been good for both of us" and change the subject. If they ask prying questions after that, the proper response is, "why do you want to know?"

They don't have to know a damned thing about you personally they've already shown their preconceived notions of morality and there's nothing promising in that.

Tough call.

My best friend (not I) is gay and (I am guessing) because his father also served as a minister he respected, it took years after his father's death before he, while I vented the evils of Christianity, openly admitted how Christianity teachings actually condemn him to hell and taught those (that likely beat him up when he was young) to hate him because is was gay.

If I were in your shoes, (Impossible because I make it very clear about my position about not accepting faith (belief in the untestable over evidence), I would likely address the common lesson on how great the mainstream Christian god is to homosexuals.

This reminds me of a discussion I had a few years ago with a 3rd grade girl. She, with much apprehension stated: "I understand you don't think it is bad to be gay?" I said humans like all animals exist on a spectrum of sexuality in that some guys desire girls some girls desire guys some guys desire guy and some girls desire girls. There is nothing wrong with those tendencies. In your culture If you were gay it was noted as "winkte" pronounced "wink tae" It was a position that was recognized not as evil but a position that allowed a man to live with the eyes of a woman etc.

Her worried look melted away into a smile and she responded. This is good because my sister is gay and I really love my sister. I don't want her to burn in hell forever." I then mentioned there is a silly book that some people believe that does not approve allow being gay but we really have no reason to believe in that one silly book. I didn't have the heart to tell her the book was her holy bible (She was Catholic). . . .

I were in Misha-friggi'n-waka IN, I'd consider discretion the better part of valor in the real world. Who knows what perverse things they would imagine about a 50 y.o. trans woman and a 17 y.o. lesbian. I'd rather be happy than right, in that case.

So ... I guess it boils down to "just smile and move on".