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As many of you know, I lost my husband Richard on June 22nd 2018. It's been a hard few months for me, but things are starting to work a little better. I finally got the paperwork with the VA and Social Security straightened out and have received a portion of my husbands pension from the VA, and survivor benefits from SS. I'm learning how to manage on my own, and do things like get salt for the water softner, replace the front door, find a lawyer to help me with probate, since we didn't get his Will finished before he past. I also went to my doc and got some medication to help me sleep, as that was a real problem for weeks. The bags under my eyes are getting smaller now that I'm getting some rest. The nights are still hard. Going to bed alone can be so hard. I also have a good friend who lost her husband to liver cancer on August 4th, and I went to the memorial service yesterday. That was extremely hard, and I found myself in tears for much of the service. I know from seeing my grief counselor each week that things will continue to get better and easier with time. I come here pretty often to just read or maybe comment on a few posts. I am so glad I found this site, as it has helped me so much just to read the responses that folks write to those who write about their pain and loss. All in all, this is really a great community of people wanting to help one another. I hope to be helpful to others as well.

Redheadedgammy 9 Sep 2

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Hi dear . Any time u can't sleep, u can contact me and chat if u want . I am a night nurse , even when not working , rarely sleeping at nights .
I am proud of u , surviving on your own and doing things that u did not know u could do b4. The tears won't disappear magically . And don't have to . Honoring his memory and be sad is expected . I hope the days will come soon that u will start laughing and smiling , remembering the fun moments of him and the funny ones too . Keep going dear .
I am truly available if u need my ears .♥️


life can truly suck i hope you continue to find some positives to keep it all worthwhile and the dark horrible negative shit carries on into your past take care


So sorry for your loss. Agreed, this is a great site to come to for community. The feedback and support I've received here has been priceless.


Sorry for your loss. I have found it takes time to re-adjust to a different life environment. Decades ago I lost a ten year old relationship (she left the state and from my perspective is effectively dead) and I spent much time in a state of grief. Two decades later I am happier now then I was during those ten years. I hope your road to again find peace and happiness is short.


I'm so sorry for your loss!

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I'm sorry to hear of your and your friend's losses.

JimG Level 8 Sep 2, 2018
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