How to deal with rejection?
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Dreamer777
Level 5
Sep 16, 2018
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Accept the situation, and try not to take things personally.
As an actor , I learned this long ago. Inevitably, one will be rejected many times over, during auditions. I just remember that the director is likely looking for a specific look, or voice, or way of moving - and I'm simply not it. Eh. Next !
Metaphor for life.
evergreen
Level 8
Sep 16, 2018
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True. I thibk that the same applies to other people who like me but I don't like them.. not because they're bad but cause I just don't feel it ?
The way I try to think about it is that I have not actually lost anything. If I apply for a job or a loan or a place to live and I don't get it, nothing has been taken away from me. If I show interest in a person and they do not reciprocate, nothing has been lost.
JenBeberstein
Level 8
Sep 16, 2018
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It's true that I didn't lose anything.. it's just hard to see that I can't be with them
Great way to see it ! Even though it might be disappointing, you can't lose what you didn't have in the first place !
@Dreamer777 try to see the ones that don't work out as practice for the ones that will.
If I feel hurt by criticism, I try to listen to the kernel of truth, learn from it, and let the bad feelings go.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
Sep 16, 2018
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That greatly depends on the reasons and the context. If I introduce myself suggesting we get to know each other/ offer to buy you a drink or whatever then nothing has changed... we did not know each other before and we can continue. If it’s something more like what happend with my ex wife then It’s harder, but we got lawyers and moved on... if I had known at the time the best relationships of my life were still ahead of me I could have had a smoother ride on the emotional rollercoaster.
ArdentAtheist
Level 8
Sep 16, 2018
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I hope to reach this situation one day.. ?
@Dreamer777 I hope you do... Although I’m not with a certain someone anymore it was worth every moment for those 5 years... near made all the crap worth it. I have plenty of stress and ups and downs... remembering what’s good in our lives and that their is always somthing to be thankful for is my mantra.
@ArdentAtheist I totally agree with you. Gratefulness always opens up the space for everything good to join your life ... all the best ??
It's painful. Men and women have been conditioned to respond to it differently, as well as to reject people differently. When a woman rejects a man, she sometimes has to wonder if his reaction will be an actual physical threat, which sometimes governs her behavior. Men never have to consider that factor, thus sometimes they are cruel in their rejection of a woman. It strikes a huge blow to our self esteem, especially since many adult women have been raised to believe that their only value is in their ability to attract a man or keep a man interested in them. I'm not sure there is a pat answer to your question, but the best advice I can give is to always keep working on your self image and know that you are worthy, even if some schmuck is telling you otherwise.
Deb57
Level 8
Sep 16, 2018
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I'm still trying to figure that one out. I'm still haunted over being rejected in the 7th grade, 8th, grade and the 11th grade when I told a girl Iiked her and she just walked away. Never talked to her again. Lol. Women can be cruel. They just need to say I'm sorry your not my type or something. Guys have to constantly get rejected while women sit tight hope and wait for a guy to come to them. Times are changing tho.
MrChange
Level 7
Sep 16, 2018
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@maturin1919 I get it. However, I was explaining my end. Rejection is hard and it's even worse for guys. We have to constantly get rejected and it's hard to get over it. It doesnt feel good regardless. My point is that no matter how many times we men get rejected it hurts but we have to keep moving. I feel bad for anyone who gets rejected women or men. However, the statement that I made is fact. I wasnt being heartless I was telling the truth. If anyone felt I was being insensitive I apologize and I'll refrain from telling my views. Regardless, she will pick herself up and move on again. It takes time but you'll still remember.
Well sorry to hear about your experience but I think that it's time already to let go. Women, like myself, mostly feel shy to approach and are more sensitive.
@Dreamer777 men. Or at least I am have compassion and is sensitive as well. I do understand being shy. No one likes the feeling of being rejected. But hey, maybe you might find someone here. This place is growing be the second.
@MrChange so in this case what shall women do? Just approach men? It's not easy at all..
For me, I'm not into online dating. Thanks for your support
@Dreamer777 to be honest. I don't have a solution. It's very hard to tell women what they should do considering I'm not a woman. I only see things mostly from a guys point of view. Objectively, I do see that guys get arrogant when a woman approaches them as if they are Gods gift to earth. Of course I'm lucky of I get a date but all guys are different. I honestly hope you find what you are looking for and I know rejection hurts. Keep your head up.
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