This reminds me of something I wrote some number of years ago...

"...The one thing I do know to be fact, you must be true to yourself! This can only happen when you look deep inside and see the real you. Beyond perceptions. Beyond facades. Beyond how we'd like others to see us as. It takes courage to look into the mirror and acknowledge our weaknesses, imperfections, bad habits, and less than desirable traits. Embrace that knowledge. They can help make you a better human!"

Maybe. But women who chase after love and men are only showing how needy and desperate they are. Better to live our own lives with joy and let people come to us.

Although I experienced the one Brene' Brown book I've read as a slog, I agree with this particular quote. Most of us spend our lives denying our "shadow" and it's a fool's errand.