I dated women who thought that I should prioritize them above my children, but not for long. I made it clear in the beginning that my kids were my top priority, and two women expected that to change after a couple of dates.

I think it's awesome -- and I think it would be even more awesome, assuming your kids have met your current S.O. -- if you could all share those meals together.

I had a friend who was married three times. Every single gathering included her two ex-husbands, their significant others, her current husband, all their six kids - not to mention other family and friends. Bravo to all of them, says I.

There is nothing better for the kids -- and everybody else -- in this regard, in my opinion.

When she says "low priority" does she mean lesser importance? Or, do you consistently put her on the back burner to hang out with the ex and your kids?

I wonder if her issue is that she isn't your only priority.

I have a great relationship with all my ex-partners.

Been and done the relationship bit of the relationships - that's why they are over, ended after long discussions and mutual agreement. Just because the spark is no longer there doesn't end years of friendship and companionship. They are beautiful human beings I am proud to have a friends. Why should a new partner be afraid of your friends?

It is best for the child if their parents can maintain a good relationship.

My ex did a lot of things with the mother of his child. He also paid some of her bills on occasion. Would not have helped his daughter to be evicted from her home.

No, it wasn't always easy to bear but then again I attended my ex-husbands 45th birthday party. I once ate a holiday dinner with them as well.

Sometimes people object to ex's being friends because they think it looks bad. I personally would not want to date someone that would treat the mother of his child like shit.

Good for you... Though highly unusual.
I'm not sure how I'd feel as the new girl. I wish it would based on how you interact with the ex and with me.