I can relate to that. I think my issues, however, go back to childhood.

IKR? Relationships r hard to begin with, then things get comfortable and sometimes we put our foot in our mouths or get overly sensitive. Until I got married my ave. relationship was like 3-6 months, but I finally found a good connection that lasted 18 years. I hope life will let me bump in to another amazing love story! We'll see.

Ask yourself what it is you're afraid of. Sit with the answers that come up.

I have done this very thing in my life till I learned that I must Love myself enough to value myself enough to not destroy the Good I create within a relationship. Look at the Value of the Love in the relationship before other things, this may help, it helped me..

Lack of self worth? Feeling you cannot meet the other persons standards? Being part of a couple,to end being lonely,or do you embrace loneliness too strongly?

There are two sides in every relationship. I think we should be allowed to be just a little bit crazy sometimes and if a person wants to be with us they help us figure it out. Of course it couldn't happen all the time. You could be with people that are far too picky. But yes counseling will help determine what's going on.

It's good that you at least recognize your actions. Now I will tell you exactly how to completely and utterly solve this problem....

You ready?

Here it is:

STOP. DOING. THAT.

Your welcome! ?

Yup; many of us do that when we start to feel a bit claustrophobic in a relationship. We start to look ahead and see all the changes and sacrifices we have to make, and incroachment into our space.

A wise man will move slowly to allow women to get used to them, when most are in a rush to acheive their number one goal..sex.

Most women aren't looking for sex, since most normal cis hetero men want to have sex with most women, but want a committed lifetime companion who will love them, and put them first.

It is not the fact that we sabotage things when they go well. We do it because we want to see if the other person will love us no matter what, unfortunately.

I like this gal. She is really honest.