Hi everyone. I became a widower in 2010 after 26 years of marriage. I made a big mistake, and got married too soon, thinking everything would be the same or similar. Man was I mistaken! After a very costly divorce, I retired early, sold everything and started traveling. I lived out of the country for 3 years. Now I'm back to help a sick brother. Now you know.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.The path to marital happiness,is strewn with barbed wire and potholes it seems, I'm a Widower too,lost wife of 27 years to cancer in last Sept. 2017,so entering the much changed dating World again,lots of scammers,some you see immediately,others play a long game,feeding you enough line and bait to reel you in. Ask pointed questions,demand answers,see if the person you are interested in can take a recent picture of the country or city they are in.
Mike1947
Level 7
Nov 15, 2018
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Sorry for your suffering and disappointment. In my case I was widowed two years ago after a marriage of 18 years. Would like to find someone for another long term relationship, but will not get married again at this age. Not even sure I will live with someone again. Marriage at my age is not a requirement (with no kids) and I can provide for someone financially just as well thru a will as being married since my SS will not likely be higher than my future partner. No need to risk a divorce for me.
It might help if a future partner was similar to my late wife, but I'm not looking for a copy of her, as she was not perfect, hell knows I'm not, and neither was our marriage even tho it was a good one. I've changed for sure since we got married and my wife's illness and death made sure of that. So someone with a few differences from my wife might be a good thing. I'm in no hurry to get serious with someone.
TomMcGiverin
Level 8
Nov 12, 2018
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It's nearly impossible to duplicate a previous relationship. But then, you found that out. Not an easy lesson.
evergreen
Level 8
Nov 12, 2018
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You are soooo right. Expensive lesson.
Sorry you encountered a woman that was a mistake. My grandfather had a similar experience and married the nurse that helped his wife - - they were married a month after his 1st wife died. Big mistake but he was lucky, she died just under ten years later allowing him to find (for a few more years) another woman that was not a mistake. Hope things turn for the better for you.
NoMagicCookie
Level 8
Nov 12, 2018
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Thank you so much
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